I was Emotionally Exploited by my mother-in-law and husband for years after marriage, I kept my calm and carried on in life, but I was very unhappy within all these years. All these years, I was probably torturing myself by not living my life to the fullest and I really forgot to live. Now after more than two decades, as my children are about to settle down, I am unable to convince myself to accept them even though deep within I do not wish to leave my husband but mother-in-law is a complete no-no even though they have changed for the better now. I am not able to convince my heart. I feel I am indulging in self-harm. Can any one please put some light on my personality type.
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ami, why not seek therapy to help you realize what is the truth for your life today? You probably have genuine caution about accepting those family members "just" because they seemed to have changed. You were hurt and need to know that they won't do it again. Therapy will help you become a stronger person, and will also help you find enjoyment of life! Now that your children are finding their own lives, you also have time to focus on yourself. Go for it.
drjean
Hi there Ami...It sounds like you have low self-esteem...could you discuss with a Therapist or a doctor about how you are feeling? They could help you out and make you feel more complete.
Have you talked to your mother-in-law about the past? It could help, as long as you don't appear angry, and just want to make things better.
Best,
Clyde