Avatar Posted by upsidedown 205 days ago (Question)
im 26 yrs. i have a 5 yr old and 6 month old. got as great husband that helps more than enough. i get streesed about everyday life. i dont drink, smoke or have hobbies due to being a mom all day. i have no clue on how to let out the anger and my husbands getting the worst of it. also i have lots of anxiety that doesent help the situation.


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Written by Clyde 205 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

You start out talking about how good life is, then all of a sudden, you discuss about the stresses of every day life. What are the ones that bother you the most?

Can you discuss any of this with your husband? What would he/does he say?

Are there friends/family members to talk to?

Or is it an issue of purely just how to open up? If your husband is getting the worst of it, do you mean that you are grouching at him, or do you mean that he hears about it all the time?

Best,

Clyde

Written by Edahn 205 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Can you make some time for yourself to do something the restores your energy and makes you feel centered?

Can you turn to your husband for some support when you feel anxious or overwhelmed? If he's not sure what to do, just go rent a movie together until a better idea comes.

Try forcing yourself to be responsible about your anger and do what's fair. Venting onto your husband isn't fair, so stop yourself when you feel it coming and wait for an alternative to appear.

Written by zanzivar 205 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

You are still a brand new mother upsidedown and you are bound to be stressed. Now you have two human beings to worry about and that is stressful. It takes a long time to recover after a birth as well and you could have a touch of post-natal depression. I didn't know I had this until it lifted one day and I suddenly felt better after my second child.

You need to get out more often especially on your own. Maybe take a walk or something and breathe in the fresh air into your lungs and while your at it imagine all the anger disappearing. Bring along a walkman with you as well and play lovely love songs on it or good energetic ones that help you to disperse the energy within you a bit more.

Zanzivar.

Written by bellacutie 205 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi,

my kids are 7 and 11 so they're spaced similar to yours. I know what it's like to be in your shoes with the over whelming responsibility of taking care of small children. It's easy to lose yourself when everything you do, involves taking care of the kids. You have to remember to nurture yourself - body and mind.

I think you should tell your doctor because it could be post partum depression. What do you think is specifically making you angry? Try writing them down to see if there's any solution you and your husband can come up with. I think you should also ask for help from family or friends so that you can have a periodic break once in a while. You should also take a nap when your 6 month old does. Make sure you're taking good care of yourself with eating healthy and exercise. Put the kids in a stroller and go for a power walk. You could also try meditation and yoga. Another thing to remember is don't sweat the small stuff.

Since you appreciate your husband, then try not to vent on him. When you feel it beginning, try taking some slow deep breathes and remove yourself from the frustrating situation. I hope you find what you need to feel better.

Written by zanzivar 205 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi, Bellacutie! ((((hug))))

Zanzivar.


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