Avatar Posted by sadiag 208 days ago (Question)
Hi there, I am a 16 year old highschool student living in New Zealand.
When I started school 3 years ago I used to cry every morning and freak out about school because it was quite a change from primary school. After a while I started to really enjoy school, make friends and do well in my subjects. However my body seemed to begin to get anxious every morning when I woke up because I had done it for a while and it was what I had trained myself to do. So every morning when I woke up my tummy would get a horrible feeling and I would wind myself up! Eventually, this stopped a bit and would only happen at the start of every school term when I seemed to have forgotten how I actually enjoyed school, while being on holiday! Then I started my second year and it happened a bit and then died off, and the same with my third and fourth years. Now I am in the second term of my fourth year and have just been on an amazing trip to america and am back, panicking again. I am worried about missing out on school work, missing our friends in america who I wish I could live with and silly things like this! I just need help calming myself down and enjoying this year rather than waking up wanting to cry.
I hope you can help!
Sadia


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Written by bellacutie 208 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi,

seems like what you think it is - anxiety. Are you also shy or just anxious? You're right, you can get into a pattern of anxiousness, but you seem to know the signs and are good at controlling it. I'm sure you're good at talking yourself out of the nervous feelings. You also need to be aware of the worried voice in your head that gets you worked up in the first place.

Try to identify what's worrying you and replace it with positive thoughts. You might also try meditation and deep breathing exercises to help calm you down. Concentrate on the moment instead of dreading what hasn't happened yet. Make the most of your last year and savour every moment. Best of luck.

Written by sadiag 208 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Thanks for your help!

Im not a shy person, I join in on the student council and get in productions so I think another thing that makes it tough is knowing most people in my year would have no idea how I am feeling on the inside!

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Written by Edahn 208 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

Since you seem to be enjoying school, my hunch is that the anxiety is being caused more by your fear of GETTING ANXIOUS (and dwelling on that) rather than anything actually bad happening AT SCHOOL.

If that sounds right, then the best thing to do is to just let the anxiety come and not take it so seriously, kind of like "oh! and here it comes...the panicky feeling (check), stomach ache (check), thoughts about how I'm going to make it out of this (check). Okay. Well, I guess I'll be on my way now!" You could even try seeing the humor in all of it. The point of this isn't to force it to go away or to make it different, but just to get comfortable with it so you're no longer as bothered by its appearance. If that happens, there'll be no more reason to dwell on it in the first place.

Written by Clyde 207 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

It does sound like anxiety, for sure. Could you talk to a doctor there or a school counselor?

Best,

Clyde


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