Avatar Posted by OCDocdOCDocdOCDocd 44 days ago (Question)
As my name suggests, I have OCD. My OCD has affected many people in my life, including many people I work with. I am in recovery, but part of my OCD treatment is that I have to be *less nice*, in a sense.

Some of my co-workers know this. If I say I'm sorry, I'm sort of being nice, yes? Even so, I have no reason to think offering an apology will make my OCD worse, at the moment. However, I wonder, if one has been treated badly because of their mental illness, should one apologize, and if so, when? After one is fully recovered? During recovery? Thoughts?


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Written by perpetuallysad 44 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

My OCD and a few other things have led me to a place where I am unable to work. But my first instinct would be to say you should never apologize for someone treating you badly. I know you may have that instinctive "I'm sorry" on the tip of your tongue (I know I do it myself), but you don't have to apologize when you are not in the wrong.

Written by Chemar 44 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi

I dont think you should ever feel that you have to apologize for having OCD unless it has resulted in your doing or saying something that has upset someone else. But if it makes you feel better to apologize, then that should be ok too. If others are treating you badly because of your OCD, then it isnt you that needs to apologize, but them!

However, I am not sure I understood too well, but I think you are saying that your OCD makes you "too nice" when others are not being so toward you? and that part of your treatment is to be less nice?

I guess if that is the case then there is still a nice way of standing up for yourself that will let others know it isnt ok to treat you badly.

Sometimes other people can be really mean about things they dont understand or have knowledge on, so i sure feel for you on this.

Hope your treatment produces very positive results for you and that you manage to achieve the right balance of being nice without letting others treat you badly.

Written by OCDocdOCDocdOCDocd 44 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -


Written by bellacutie 44 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

If some people are treating you badly then don't apologize to them. Only apologize when you clearly feel you've done or said something wrong. It's sounds like you get stressed when you feel someone doesn't like you. If you apologize too freely - mean people will take advantage of that. When you feel the impulse to apologize - just think for a minute, take a deep breath - ask yourself is this really necessary? There will always be some people at work who don't get along - stick with the nice people and best of luck.

Written by Clyde 44 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I dont think you should have to apologize either. The "I'm sorry" bit is good enough, especially if you really are sorry.

Best,

Clyde

PS: Dont know how the above post happened...

Written by Chemar 43 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I edited that glitched post for you Clyde...not sure how it got up there or where OCD's other post is????? Could be they edited it out at the same time you were posting and the glitch occurred maybe??

Written by OCDocdOCDocdOCDocd 43 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Thanks, all, for your answers. Yes, I edited my above post earlier.

Written by katrineme7 43 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I say 'I am sorry' all the time, and often people will respond to me by saying I should not feel sorry as I did not do anything wrong, or was the cause of an event.

This seems like a totally strange and ridiculous interpretation of what I am saying. I don't only say 'I am sorry', and I don't only feel sorry when it's my fault, or I did something wrong! I say I am sorry when I feel 'O am sorry'. So if someone tells me that their mother died, or my son had a bad experience, or, someone is feeling lousy, then I feel sorry for them, and 'that', and I say it?

Written by Clyde 43 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Chemar,

No, he didnt have anything on it, it was edited out. I must of hit edit on it instead of reply.

That is my best guess.

Thanks,

Clyde


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