Avatar Posted by confused 719 days ago (Question)
i am hot tempered,i get angry easily,i feel angry all the time and dont know why,someitmes i know why but i feel this internal anger just sitting there inside me.i dont really have any unresolved issues


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Written by WolfHeart 719 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

When I'm mad, i listen to music and punch the wall. Not the healthiest habit but still. You need to find a way to get rid of the anger. write down how you feel. write a poem. writing is good. ^_^ sorry if that didn't help... i tried

Written by andersonc 718 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Have you tried therapy, or talking about your feelings? Sometimes we can bottle our emotions, and then we're left with a pressure-cooker situation where our emotions become too much to handle and sometimes the only way that they express themselves is anger or rage.

WolfHeart had good suggestions. Try physical activity, or writing, or learn some sort of meditation or breathing exercises to help.

Good luck.

Written by Clyde 711 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Can you think of any reason you would be very angry? Lots of times it is stuff we have had bottled up within us--issues from the past that we have not yet resolved.

Like Wolf mentioned, perhaps journaling or talking to someone, writing?

You may want to see and talk to a T why you feel so angry, or perhaps check with a GP and make sure everything is fine.

Best of luck!

Written by Soidhonia 700 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hello Confused. Many times how you are taught to deal with social issues and the decision making processes in life, encouragement is put on not disclosing the problem, and dealing with the problem yourself without seeking the appropriate professional help support for yourself. This in time can lead to many difficulties, mainly learning inappropriate techniques or behaviors to deal with issues or problems, even though the problem is Rarely solved through the behavior of choice, due to the fact the problem is not resolved by the appropriate opportunistic facilitation to resolve the issue in a stable and conditional and reasonable manner, the problem is allowed to consume your well being, and a sense of resolve is accomplished through harmful tactives such as cutting, burning, or self mutilative tactics to release the stress of holding the pain and torment of the problem inside and having no outlet for the pain to resolve the suituaion in a conclusive and resolvable manner. The hurt that you put yourself into with self mutilative tactics in time, takes the place of actually acting responsibly to seek the help needed for your problems and things just get escalated from that point, since there is no outlet for your anger because no resolve has been made in the situation, and you just keep getting angrier and face difficulties from the situation just replaying itself, since the approprite steps of getting the professional help or support you needed to help you make the decisions needed to close and resolve the situation were not acceptable nor available to help you get the closure you needed dso it jsut becomes a never ending cycle of frustration and self mutilation with nothing being resolved appropriately, and this in time can lead to depression or other feelings of rejection or anxiety from facing situation head on, and cause avoidance disorders which are unnecessary. There is help for your situation and your avoidance problems, if you are willing to get help from a trained therapist, to learn to deal with your issues in a more tactive and reasonable manner, without setting off the cycle of self mutilation, and aggression and anxiety. Getting professional help from a therapist can help you regain control over the things that seem uneventful to you at this time, and help guide you in steps to bring conclusions to your problems appropriately and safely, without having to trigger yourself into a total breakdown of facilitation of social and communicative abilities, and give you a colure to issues that need to be dalt with accordingly. Take care and good luck in your future endeavours.

Written by livingXaXlie 616 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

i feel the same way. i get angry for no reason what so ever. especially during school. the rage just makes me want to break stuff, i just want to get rid of the "source" of my anger altogether.

but writing does help a lot. a write poetry reflecting my feelings. and i even keep a journal that i write in whenever i feel really angry or depressed or even confused. i like to listen to some music too. it kind of helps you relax and forget about all your problems. i think it helps if you sing along to it too. well, i may not be much help, but i tried. ^_^

Written by ifeelbad 465 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Don't vent!

Doing that only re-enforces the undesired behaviour, or emotional responce.

I am angry all the time. When I am at "The end of the rope" I take a setp back try to take every thing in and plan what is going to happen next.

Now my problem is that im so angry lately that I feel like hanging my self. Now, that's not right.

I need help.

Written by angryone 277 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

i'm also angry all the time, everyone really aggravates me. people are selfish, unreasonable and they just want to use you. i know i have unresolved issues, my parents were emotionally abusive to each other and to us kids, i can't seem to get past it even though they are now in their 80's. they are both senile, mom has alzheimers, but they still just irritate the living sh*t out of me. i have no tolerance for their mistakes. i know it's because of things they did to me as a child, but i'm now in my 40's and it seems like i should be able to let it go and just let them be old people in peace. but it's all stuck here in my gut. and it spills over into my life, other people, i have no tolerance for stupidity. i feel very alone even though i am surrounded by people who 'love' me. i'm not sure how to help anyone else but i guess if we just keep typing it isn't so bad. makes me feel a little better.

Written by beatriz 265 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hey angryone,my name is Beatriz, and i hear you man..ill be 40 on tuesday(march 3) anyways, my point is: i feel the same freaking way about my parents, theyre old and sick as well..they inflicted a lot of pain, neglect n misery into my life, hell, they threw me out on the streets when i was 13,and my mother did NOTHING!!!sorry i get very emotionally about it, and people expect me "to get over it"...EXCUSE ME??? my parents f...kill me and they expect me to get over it!!!!!wow..sorry i get so pissed over it..you know? what bothers me the most?? my own freaking brothers and sisters tell me that all the time: " you should let go, you need to forgive, its bad for you...etc.." well, excuse the f out of me!!!!! f you and my parents!!! how you like that?? and their response is: " youre only hurting yourself" "youre crazy..." youre god...right im crazy.. and im hurting myself??????MY PARENTS KILLED ME 40 YEARS AGO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!im so sorry angryone, please forgive my anger, im just venting...please dont take it personally..if you would like to respond back, hey, its only fair, right? you read my story, trust me, ill read yours.. anyways, i feel better already..thanx..bye..

Written by angryone 261 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Beatriz, i feel like you just described my stuff. I am so glad someone else is as messed up as me, wow does that sound selfish. thank you so much for honestly venting, you are saying what i am feeling too. and i'm hearing the same things from my siblings...how can they just let go? what's wrong with me that i can't? it's like i'm stuck here in this angry hell and i know it isn't good for me or anyone around me. i'm having a crappy day today, i'm all pent up and i know it's cause i'm supposed to go to their house today after work and i know i'll get angry with them about some stupid thing and i know it will mess me up way more than it messes them up. the things they say sometimes, i just don't think they get it at all. they think they behave normally. they just continue to treat me as 'whatever' and tell me stories about how wonderful my brother is. on my way to work some guy was tailgating me so i got so angry and slowed down to a crawl and kept hitting my brakes. i'm just a small woman, this was some big dude, why do i do that? as i turned off the main road, he went past, i said out loud to myself 'hope i don't kill anyone today'. i have to stop this, we both really do. it's not good. it helps so much to talk to someone who knows how this feels. thank you...i will check for your answer...i feel better getting it out..maybe that's what we have to do, just keep talking...i think my blood pressure just went down a little, i feel calmer...

Written by beatriz 260 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hey angyone! its good to hear from you, its amazing how we have so much in common, i even added you as my friend on this QnA thing, but you can also locate me on the forums, just go on members list and youll find my name, and you can send me a message directly to me, instead on this guys or girls block..so ill be waiting 4 you angryone, take care n cant wait to hear from you!!! have lots to share with you!! bye!!


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