My husband has recently been diagnosed as bipolar. He was hospitalized for a short time due to suicidal thoughts. Prior to, during, and after his hospitalization he engaged in an affair of the heart (not physical). He is now working on getting his medication regulated and has begun therapy. Yet he cannot show any compassion for me or what he put me through. When I ask him about it he just says "I don't know why I don't feel compassion for you. I know I should, but I don't" Is this part of the illness or is there something else going on here?
BTW, this type of behavior (the affair) is completely out of character for him. Before and after we were married, he said that if there was ever a time when either of us felt like it wasn't working or we wanted to be with someone else, we would always be straightforward about it. Both of our families are in disbelief....no one ever thought he would do something like this. He even told my mother that once we had children, we would work through any problems that arose, because he didn't want his children growing up the way he did. Now he says he doesn't even know if he wants to try to work things out.
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