Avatar Posted by Ericalan 145 days ago (Question)
My son claims I have been phiscally abusive when I know I haven't. Can he really believe this?


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Written by series0 145 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

People can believe anything. Literally anything. The more unbalanced emotionally and the lower the maturity level the more likely the person is to be ruled by their own ego and reality can seem extremely far away. This can occur almost constantly. I am not a trained psychologist so I am speaking merely from personal experience.

Do you have a diagnosis for your son of bi-polar disorder or do you simply think he is bi-polar? I have a few folks who were routinely accused by their friends and family of being bi-polar, so much so that they and others accepted it themselves without any real professional diagnosis.

There are a ton of reasons to have people become both animated or manic and inactive or depressed. There are quite a few disorders that share symptoms with bi-polar disorder. One of them that immediately comes to mind when you speak of potentially made-up memories is histrionic disorder. Look it up. Also, read about cases that have happened like this to others and how they coped with it. You are not the only person to have experienced this issue.

I will say this has a personal side for me. I have had literally hundreds of people remember things inappropriately that I witnessed firsthand. I have had test after test performed by friends, medical professionals, psychologists, and even the military and my memory is amoung the highest. It is actually quite a curse. Even normal quite balanced and in most ways mature people almost constantly fabricate memories in order to lie to themelves and prop up their wicked and fragile egos. In truth, I have fought this battle all my life. My parents and friends have had uncounted arguements with me over precisely what they said. I am not claiming to have always been right or even good but I think i'd claim 90% or so and another 90% of the times I was wrong I was knowingly so. Maybe this is just my fragile ego talking but I am admitting as well. Regardless, all this correctness and memory serves to put me at odds with a lot of people and very often. I have learned diplomacy only by the hardest lessons.

So where am I going with this? I have had several women remember things wrongly and claim I abused them when I know I did not. These were not cases where I was emotional. I was clear-headed. They were not. Further, and later more than one woman covertly broke into my email and got in touch with the other. Their false memory and ego-justifying commiseration could have threatened me with prison time had I been unlucky. To this day they each believe their sordid memories and I have had to do a lot of legwork and disclosure to friends and family who mostly know of my memory and most of them secretly admitted to me that they had wronged me in the past and thus believed me. Also I disclosed my wrongs along with the wrongs done to me and almost universally these women painted their stories with me as the only villain and themselves innocent of everything.

In my memories which I hold as my solid facts, each of these women physically attacked me first and often. Also in fact, I merely defended myself for long periods in each instance. Keep in mind there was nothing worse physically that they can even point to beyond carpet burns. I was struck by plastic sticks, thrown water bottles, kicked, beaten with their arms, had my genitals attacked, and one attempted to bite me. Although their efforts were truly laughable from a strictly physical perspective these attcks are actually no laughing matter at all. Then the memory is an attempt by their ego to flip the I-am-an-animal script they gave into onto me. It's very dangerous.

So, be very very very careful with this issue. Document everything. Disclose everything to as many close friends as you can. Get as many moments of clairty and confusion from your son on record so that his disorder, whatever it may be, is well documented and socially known. Whenever possible record conversations and have a third party present even with your own son. You need to be careful.

Regardless, good luck.

Written by Clyde 137 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I agree...if he feels that you have and you say you havent, document everything. Let things be known, and be careful.

Best,

Clyde


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