Avatar Posted by Mommieme 174 days ago (Question)
I deal with bipolar, I was married & unmedicated. In 2005, my father died unexpectedly while overseas; 3 days later I had an accident with my son (dropping him) and my husband was the only one there. Now, he lies & accuses me of trying to kill our son. My husband divorced me while I was in the hospital, after I brokedown. He was awarded sole custody. I do not have money for a lawyer, but I have filed modification papers and am waiting to get a letter from the court. I have not seen my son in almost 5 yrs. IT"S NOT FAIR!! I don't want to take my son away; Just want to see him. I also acknowledge that his dad is doing this only to hurt me. What do I do or think? Judges may not understand mental health. Should I give up?


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Written by bellacutie 174 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi,

I'm sorry this has happened to you - it must be very hard. I hope your son didn't suffer any injury. All you can do is access help through legal aid or try to find a sympathetic lawyer who would take your case for free. It's very important that you take good care of yourself, so that the court will form a positive opinion of you. Let this be motivation for taking care of your mental health and following doctors advice. Were there any charges filed against you?

Perhaps you could get them to agree to supervised visits. Why would your ex think you were trying to kill your son? I know you must feel devastated, but try to take care of yourself, so you'll be prepared in case you do see him. Plus you have to keep going for yourself too. I wish I could help you more and my prayers are with you.

Written by Mommieme 174 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

I don't know what is worse, my situation or some lives I read about.

My son had a minor concussion, he was 16 months old. Sis-in-law made up stories, all his family & husband adopted the lies.She reported that I threw him on the wall twice. The hospital records don't suppport that so u can see what they're trying to do.



No charges were filed cuz basically it was an accident. I have gone to legal aide endlessly. They give good advice, but that is all.

I don't want to be a scapegoat cuz I have bipolar... many parents are good to their kids and have illness.

I have been stable for 3 years now. I have to appear strong and capable.

Thank you for your feedback. I just needed to have someone listen and not judge.

The divorce decree lists things we are each to so. I have done mine, He has not. This is hell on earth.

Written by Clyde 174 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

Could you contact a lawyer and let them know he has not kept the part of his bargain and try to get the chance to see your son again?

I know you probably dont want to do so, but even supervised visits may be better than nothing, right?

Best,

Clyde

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Written by bellacutie 174 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi,

thanks for your reply. Don't give up, make sure your ex is following through with his obligations. Yes I agree that many parents who are mentally ill, still are capable of being good parents - accidents happen sometimes to the best of parents. I'm so sorry you're suffering, but hang in there. I hope you get to see your son. Feel free to vent your feelings anytime. TC Hugs :) Bella

Written by bellacutie 171 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi again,

I forgot to ask you. Your question asks - should you give up. Does this mean, give up trying to see your son or giving up on life in general? No you should never give up in either case. You should be entitled at the very least to supervised visits. Can you try to get a sympathetic lawyer to take your case for free. Were the police or child services called and what was their conclusion? I hope that one day you will have regular visits so you can have a relationship with him. TC

Written by TLA 170 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

You are right, I meant it both ways. I know I should not be thinking of suicide or folding now...I do not know any sympathetic lawyers, but I still look more.

I know I will have to not-slip-up and show the court I love him and want supervised visitation.

I thihk I will end up going to represent myself 'pro se' on my own. If I don't see him now while he is young, I may have to wait till he is 12 and wants to know me and hope that he is not too filled of poison. A the saying goes" kill them with kindness"....I am trying to murder my ex mother-in law with kindness by prayer.

thanks for caring to ask and follow up.

Written by bellacutie 170 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

You're welcome. If it hasn't been determined in court that you're a danger to your son- then I don't think it's fair that you don't get to see him. There are men in prison, where the court grants them visitation - so why not you! Keep yourself strong for your son's sake but most of all for your sake. TC :D


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