for the last 9 months, ive been feeling rather strange and i dont understand as to why. its like 2 to 3 days i will be content, not quite happy, but content and then its like i just change from feeling that way to feeling empty and i would just start crying or i would well up, and i have no idea why. it tends to happen more when its at night, and even sometimes when its dull outside also when im on my own ,i tend not to cry around people. its not that i feel sad i just.. well i dont really know how to describe its just that i dont know what it could be related to because i do excersize to release stress,i read books to calm myself down,but even sometimes reading books can make my life feel empty, and when i try to find out what it could be linked to lots of people say it could be related to something that happened to you when you was child but it only started about 9 months ago.

help, it would be nice to understand why i feel so random and what it could be related to or its cause.


Answers


foreverastudent
1442 days ago
Is something currently stressing you out that you don't want to consciously deal with? Maybe a job situation or a relationship? Sometimes we underestimate the effect those things can have on us.

I like to deal with the present first and then delve into the past if there seems to be a reason. If you can honestly think of nothing that might stress you out, then perhaps move on to try and examine the past with a therapist. Right now I recommend some B vitamins, they help with stress levels...maybe it's just an imbalance?



taracb123
1442 days ago
well the thing is im only 16 and my last boyfriend was november time and i had a hard time getting over that but thats it on the relationships, and i dont think i feel stressed because ive just left school. and i dont kno why but i feel like im making a big deal out of nothing by going to a therapist cuz i feel like im just wasting there time. but i didint realise that stress could make me feel the way im feeling.



Edahn
1442 days ago
It's okay to cry now and then. It doesn't mean something is wrong. Sometimes we feel empty, sometimes we feel full. If you can keep your cool, I promise it won't seem as bad.

I have a feeling that your emptiness is being caused by self-consciousness. If that's it, there's really nothing you have to do. Just don't freak out and keep your cool. You don't have to solve it or make it go away. Just hang out with it. Try it.



taracb123
1442 days ago
its strange, because i thought at one point that i was self conscious, but its like i change every day and surprize myself with the way i act sometimes i can freak out if someone sits or stands to close to and sometimes i can be the one right next to my parents constantly. i only became worried a few days ago with the crying and the way i change a few days ago when a family member told me that i could be bi polar but to be honest i dont know whether i am like that or not .



Edahn
1442 days ago
That's not what bipolar is.

Self-consciousness is subtle. It's being aware of how you're feeling and thinking something is wrong. It's normal to not feel anything intense at times. What I'm guessing is happening is that you're noticing it and thinking something is really WRONG with that. WHEN YOU THINK SOMETHING IS WRONG IT, that's when you start thinking too much and disconnect from yourself, which makes you feel even worse. Does that make sense?

The solution is not to freak out. It's okay if you're not feeling anything intense, or feel empty. That's how moods work. Sometimes you drift upward, sometimes you drift downward. It's like a plastic bag caught in a draft. You don't have to freak out. Stay connected to the experience and just make a mental note "the bag has drifted downward, that's okay." Eventually it'll kinda settle and won't be as turbulent. But you'll always have your moods shifting around a little. I consider myself pretty happy, but there are times when I'm down, times when I'm up, and times where I don't feel anything special. At times I FREAK THE FUCK OUT, sure, but then I notice it and say "eh, I'm okay." Try it. How do you feel right now?