Avatar Posted by shocker 276 days ago (Question)
I HAVE BEEN FEELING VERY UNSTABLE. IT IS HARD FOR ME TO HAVE A ROUTINE AND I CONSTANTLY WANNA PICK UP AND START A NEW LIFE. ITS ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE FOR ME TO MAKE DECITIONS. PLEASE IF ANYONE COULD HELP ME AT LEAST WITH A IDEA AS TO WHERE TO BEGIN I WOULD GREATLY APPRECIATE IT..


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Written by Edahn 276 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

FIRST STEP: TAKE OFF CAPS LOCK

Written by Edahn 276 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

:)

I'm just kidding with you.

All people, not just those with BPD, get urges to run away or to destroy the stability that they create. Stability often runs counter to the natural urges and potential we see for ourselves. For example, if you can only see yourself with a shitty, chaotic life, you're going to recreate that situation over and over, and stability will seem unnatural.

But the potential you see for yourself right now isn't what you're destined to become, it's just what your mind (and your BPD) want you to believe. Depression or agitation will make you think things are going to shit, but they're not necessarily bound for destruction. You have opportunities at every moment to make decisions that will better you, and decisions that will make life harder and more chaotic, even if the good decisions seem really hard to make.

My advice to you would be: start making good decisions, even though it seems incredibly difficult, depressing, or unnatural. If you think that deep down this is best, force yourself to stick with it. Start with small decision (exercising, finding a job, cleaning your place and yourself) and then eventually you will naturally work up. Remember that things will get easier with time, and these decision will seem less difficult and easier to make once you challenge your self-imposed limitations. Also, once things a little quieter, you'll get a better perspective of how the BPD messes with your perception and moods and you'll be able to challenge it easier.

Short answer: Force yourself to make small decisions that will better your life. Remember that the feelings, perceptions, and urges you will get to sabotage what you have aren't YOU, but are just temping you. Smile at them and be your way.

Written by donotfear 275 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Bravo!!! Wonderful answer, couldn't have been more precise.

Written by Clyde 272 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Very good answer, indeed.

Best,

Clyde


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