Avatar Posted by dawnbreaking 188 days ago (Question)
Older son 20 has bi-polar diagnosed when he was younger. He refuses treatment or that he has bi-polar. Younger son showing same signs. Husband I honestly don't know what the deal is there unless just delusional. The home stays very very violent I am always the 'peace maker' as much as possible. I have no finances to seek help and tried in past with older son at a community help place with bonified psychiatrist and psychologist. Meds kept him drug-ed with absolutely no personality many changes in meds and many frustrations. Now he is older still at home and no way that I know of to get help. Husband has lost touch with reality or truth of many things. No one to talk to. been dealing with this for so long I feel like a burden to even ask for help. What I do know is that I am living in hell I pray I beg the Lord (and I know He hears me) Peace does not come or am i so nerve racked I don't see it? Any kind of real guidance is appreciated. Most days I feel as if i am screaming in a desert the wind carries my voice and it gets no where.


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Written by bellacutie 187 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi,

I'm sorry you're suffering like this, it's must be horrible. My brother (now passed) had manic depression for 25yrs and it's was like a roller coaster sometimes. The only way I know is to treat them with medication and therapy, but if they're adults now, then I know it's tough if they don't want to do it. I also remember my brother hating his meds and it was hard seeing him change. All you can do is try to access the community health services again. They can be committed to the hospital, but I think they have to be considered a danger for that.

You also need to get help for yourself and all the stress you're going through. You can get moral support through the community centre as well and also in the forum section of this website. Do your sons have jobs or go to school? I know it's difficult and I wish you all the best.

Written by Edahn 187 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Bipolar responds best to medication. Finding the right medications and the right proportions could take quite a while. Do you think you could give it another try? You are sensitive to your sons' (plural) needs in not wanting them to lose their joy and personality. You could tell them that you are looking out for their well-being, would never want to hurt them, do not want them to become zombies, but would really like to get them some help to help them feel better. A community clinic, like bella suggested, is a wonderful idea. If not available and you notice your son in real trouble, you can call 911. Are you eligible for Medicare? It may be worth making a few phone calls to check that out.

bellacutie is right that you also need to find some rest and make sure you PACE YOURSELF through all of this at a rate that is steady but not exhausting. Since you seem to be religious, perhaps going to church or talking to your pastor/priest would help.

Good luck!

Written by NothingButJoyful 185 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Wow I feel it!

Its intense.

It screams for relief.

It is chronic.

This Bible scripture comes to my mind: (Psalm 94:19) . . .When my disquieting thoughts became many inside of me, Your own consolations began to fondle my soul.

I am a psyche RN and volunteer my time free of charge to help ones find relief from God's Word.

call me at 940-337-1221 and I will listen and try to offer some further thoughts.

Written by Clyde 177 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I agree too that bipolar responds well to medication. Can you convince them at all to at least see a doc?

(On a side note to NothingButJoyful: Please be very careful posting your phone number on a publicly viewed website--anyone can get it and use it.)

Best,

Clyde


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