Avatar Posted by bella 124 days ago (Question)
About 4 years ago my husband was diagnosed with major depression, ADHD, anxiety,recently diagnosed as BiPolar after going into a major manic episode. (I believe this manic episode was brought on from taking anti-depressants.) He has been manic 4 months and has totally cut off his children (and grandchildren) and is currently filing divorce after 30+ years of marriage. He has been hospitalized 3 times, jailed a few times and now lives with family about 3 thousand miles from us. This has been devasting on all of us; is there hope that he will ever come down from this and realize what he has done?


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Written by Edahn 124 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Possibly. There's no way we would know any better than you would. If this was triggered by a manic episode, then you can figure out that when the manic episode fades, so may the thoughts and impulses that led him to decide to leave. On the other hand, maybe he will still with his conclusion and trust the decision he made while manic. That depends on his personality.

The answer to your question, in my opinion, depends more on his general personality, not just on the presence or absence of manic depression. Therefore, you're in a better position to answer than we are.

Regardless, you do not have to be a victim to your situation. You can, if you feel it wise, make an effort to contact him and feel him out. You can figure out ways to remind him about the parts of his family that he loved.

If I was in your shoes, I would take some time and play it by ear. See what develops in the next few months and decide what to do then.

Written by bellacutie 124 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I understand how this must be very devastating for you and your family. To answer the last question in your post - if he's bipolar then at some point he will come out of this manic state but realizing what he's done is another matter. It's very important that his family encourages him to continue medical treatment and to take his medication.

I'm not sure if you're hoping that he'll come down from the manic stage and stop the divorce. I think you need to focus on you/your family and start the healing process. Since he's sick try to be compassionate and this will help you, so you won't feel resentful or rejected. All the best to you and your family. Bella

Written by Clyde 116 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I am sure that you understand that none of us would have a better idea than you would about if he would turn around or not.

As Bella said, the main thing you need to do is try and help your family as much as you can, and be supportive and healthful of yourself.

Best,

Clyde


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