I am a generally happy person. I have a great family and great friends. My husband was married before me and had three kids. We have a nice relationship (for the most part). His exwife has tried time and time again to come after us for money. The last time, two years ago, costing us $40,000 after lying to the courts. We have paid all the tuition for the oldest's college while she paid nothing (after promising to pay room and board). She is very active in her church; she is a big hypocrit. She puts so much of her own wants ahead of her own children it has made me so mad for years. She married someone after knowing him for only two months.
My husband has ALWAYS supported his children, financially and emotionally. He used to fly to see them one week a month when they were younger. He would fly them to see us four times a year. Now that they are older, we see them twice a year. He calls every week to try to communicate with them. It hasn't always been easy!
I could go on and on. Now, she, her husband and the boys are traveling to the daughter's college graduation (the husband takes ownership of the daughter calling her "our daughter" on facebook). I know they are phonies and take nice pictures in front of pretty scenery on their car trip. But, I get so angry and it makes me cranky. I would like to release this anger once and for all. I know we are better people than they are; I hate how they fool others. My husband's family puts on a happy face and stabs them in the back. That, too, makes me ill. I refuse to be around them or let my two girls be near them. I have tried to be kind and friendly. At the daughter's high school graduation five years ago, I was very friendly and we went home to get served papers trying to get child support for a daughter she didn't support or even keep a room for. Now they all are trotting up to the graduation to take credit for "their" daughter at the graduation. My husband is always made out to be the bad guy because he left this woman. He married too young and made a mistake not getting to know her well enough. The daughter continously has issues with my husband for him not being "good enough". She can be very ungrateful. I wait for the day when she has the maturity to see who her mother is and who her father is. But, knowing she is her phony mother's daughter, I don't know if that day will come.
Anyway...I have lots of emotion around this subject. I want to release the anger. When we were being attacked through the courts with her lies and I couldn't sleep for days on end, I tried some affirmations sending her love and all that. That, plus anti-anxiety pills got me through that difficult (understatement) time two years ago.
The best revenge is living a good life; I know this to be true. We do have a good life. We have two beautiful girls, I am able to be home with them full time. I am grateful for all I have.
This anger I have is heightened at times when my husband has to be around them. So, it's going to be hard for me next week while he's there. I am already annoyed and angry seeing pictures on my stepsons' facebook pages of them on their car trip.
How can I just let it go? They matter less and less to us as the older kids are now 23, 19 and 16.
Sorry for the ramble, but I don't feel I can talk to anyone about this in detail. I don't want to stress my husband out. He was flying to the stepson's h.s. graduation three months ago and had an anxiety panic attack and had to turn around and come home. We were very worried if he went to their state, she would serve him and start the harassment all over again.
Deep, cleansing breathes....sending love...feeling sorry for them instead of hate/anger.
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