ok, so this will be a quick one.
my dad and I don't have the best relationship, but that's just because we just don't get on, we're incompatible. There's nothing wrong with that, normally I can deal with it, we avoid confrontation etc. but for the last three years every time my dad sees me eating he calls me fat or tubby and I don't even have to be eating anymore for him to call me names. I feel quite ashamed that i'm not strong enough to ignore it and that it hurts me, but it's started to affect the way i eat now. i try not to eat around him, or to say i'm hungry. and recently it's been so bad that i've been skipping meals. it's not something that i consciously decided to do but i'm pretty sure that it's down to what my dad has been saying. so i haven't been eating. and when i do try to eat, to try to get my eating back on track he's always there calling me fat again, even if it's just a sandwich. i feel like i'm fighting a losing battle and i don't know how to get out of it. i think the thing that hurts the most is the way my mam reacts to it aswell. she doesn't call me fat and, on occassion has actually told my dad off for it, but whenever i get in an argument with my dad, she doesn't defend me at all and goes as far as to say that i'm wrong and that my dad is always right. i know that i'm wrong to argue with my parents but it doesn't seem right that i should just accept this. it really upsets me when my mam defends him for saying these things because when she was younger she had bulimia and i just can't accept that she's not trying harder to stop him. i don't want to develop an eating disorder but i can't stand that he calls me fat all the time, no mtter whether i'm eating or not. i don't know what to do. any advice would be appreciated, thanks.
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