My step son is a terror. He lies on me, steals, curses, bullies my daughter and is only eight. His father has only seen him twice in his life and he is set to visit again this summer. I am having anxiety attacks over this. My partner says he will be more involved in the life to modify his behavior but I have observed that he is seems less than sincere and I dont want the burden of caring for this child again. Help - my realtionship may be at risk over this issue.I have discussed this with my pastor and he says this is something we must both work on - my partner has not parented this child and now I feel he is ignorant of all that it takes to work with a child, especially one with significant behaviorial problems. Last summer, I dealt with the child and my partner worked and did little to interact with a child he barely knows. To top it off - the childs mother is also difficult and calls constantly to complain how bad the child is and she wants him to move here with his father. I am thinking of the entire family when I express my concerns of safely integrating him into this household. I feel like the bad guy because my partner does not consider the financial or emotional impact this child will have. I have been told to just back off from some friends and others have told me to just pray. I would not mind bringing the child here if his father and mother took active roles in setting up a professional support system to modify this childs obvious problems. I dont see these things happening and it scares me to death. Advise please!
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