Avatar Posted by sunshine32 322 days ago (Question)
Since the early age of 18months I have believed my daughter now 4 has been being molested by her father. She has told me that daddy hurt her pee-pee, and that her daddy likes to play doctor in the basement but she doesnt like it and wants me to tell him to stop(which I did), also lately she has been coming home with destin on her panties. I have asked her why, and she answers with daddy says I have to have it on, and that he puts it on her.. Her father sleeps in her room at night(on the floor).. I have taken her to a skrink and she told me that she met with her father and think that he is a good father, and doesnt believe anything is going on. Now, this is after one visit.. She told me she would not continue to see her unless her dad was present. This to me didnt seem right.. I have dealt with CPS and they told me I was lying. I have dealt with the police, She has been to the abuse center where they found dark fibers up inside of her, but did nothing to look into this.. She does not like going with her father, she was having my oldest daughter go with her for comfort, but he now put a end to it.. Does anyone have any answers..


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Written by claudia 322 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

If I really believed it to be true that my husband was doing such a thing, I would figure out a way to leave him in order to protect my daughter. Especially if I had confronted him about it and he has denied it and continues to molest her.

Written by marklesolutions 322 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

I agree with claudia. Your daughter has given you many signs that something is wrong. I am confused about the "shrinks" response. Does this person specialize in children's issues? If not, find one that does.

In my experience if someone with the information you provided contacts CPS and makes a report they would investigate hands down. If CPS told you you were lying then I would also question why would they think that? They often take sexual abuse allegations very seriously.

Regardless of who is doing what or lying about what- this will negatively effect your daughter's emotional, mental and physical health.

Written by mike01 322 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

Hello,

I understand what you are going through.

My daughter is 6 yrs old and when my ex girlfriend left me in 2007 she got married 4 months later and the man she married has been molesting my daughter for over a year now.

But NO ONE in THE LEGAL SYSTEM will HELP me. Please write me at 01mic@live.com I would really like to ttalk to you.

Written by Clyde 319 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I agree with Claudia. If you feel it to be true, you have to find a legal way to make it stop.

Call the cops and keep bugging the CPS until something happens.

Best,

Clyde

Written by afiedler1 167 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I too have begun to go through the same thing. I believe my son is being molested by his father. We are divorced and he is granted monthly visits. This summer he is required to go see his dad for a month. My son is three years old and has told me that his daddy puts his mouth on his privates. He also told me that his dad wanted him to touch his privates. My son said he told his dad that he didn't want to and that he punched his dad in his penis. But then said that later he touched his dad and his dad touched him at the same time. I am grosley disgusted and am adament to try to get this to stop. I have called social services to report my ex-husband and they told me that I am lying because of previous reports by my ex & his previous ex-wife made against me. CPS said that I am unpleasant to deal with and that I am not very credible. My son ofcourse would not tell the man who came to question him what happened and they tried telling me that this just affirms that I am lying. I know this is happening and am having an extremely difficult time finding a professional that is willing to do a mental evaluation on my son. I am frustrated and do not know what to do. I don't understand how social services can come in for ten minutes, do their investigation, and then make a concrete decision that I am lying. I have tried contacting an attorney to bring social services up on discrimination charges for discounting my report because they believe I am not credible due to past reports my ex-husband and his ex-wife made but there isn't an attorney that believes that I have a case. I asked the CPS agent why they don't do a psychological investigation of the child in these situations, but he just snapped that they don't do that and that is not how they operate. It seems a great misfortune for all children that are social service system is a joke and do not conduct more thorough investigations. I do daycare and the agent showed up during daycare hours and questioned my son when there were several children playing within ear shot. I don't see how this can be considered valid. I am appauled and shocked. I completely fell apart when the social service agent was questioning me. He started accusing me of being mentally unstable, of doing drugs, and of being spiteful towards my ex-husband. He said that social services assumes we must have had a fight about something and that I was just trying to get back at him. He threatened to charge me with neglect of my son, because of previous allegations that were made against me,even though there is nothing that indicated this was true in their previous investigations against me. I have never before made any claims against my ex-husband until now and am just floored that they had this decision made before they even arrived at my house to do their investigation.


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