Im confused and need advice on what to do.
Back in september me and my fiance were renting our own house but it only lasted a month, as soon as we moved in i found out she was flirt-texting a couple of guys, i asked her to stop because i didnt like it and didnt know why she was doing it when she was engaged to me and ended up arguing about it, anyway,
in the last full week of september she ended up hanging out with one of the guys which just so happened to be 1 of the guys in her circle of boys (guy friends) behind my back while i was at work and never tolds me about it, well during that week (Monday through to sunday) she ended up sleeping with this guy a total of three times (1st time was with protection, 2nd time was without and 3rd time was without protection too but they were drinking with the rest of the circle and my fiance and this guy ended up having sex the whole night over and over unprotected)
Around this time i was also having unprotected sex with her.
she fell pregnant around this time and did not tell me til a week later and told me about having unprotected sex with this guy another 2 weeks after that.
i have managed to forgive her and told her even if it is not mine i am still prepared to raise the baby as my own as the other potential father is already married and does not know he is the other potential father, and we are still set to be married BUT since i found out about the infidelity ive been wanting a paternity test to find out exactly if im the biological father or not.
She has kept changing her mind since i asked, 1st it was yes you can have one then it was no you cant then we ended up splitting for about 2 weeks (her choice not mine) then got back together and a week after that after she changed her mind again and said i could get a test done and we got re-engaged and now shes saying no she doesnt really want a test to be done at all even after ive re-assured her im not going to leave her if its not mine because my love for her is too strong and im still going to raise it as my own.
What should i do?? im set to be married to her in a month and im going to be by hers and babys side always but im not happy about not getting a DNA test done... All i want is closure on this situation and have answered to me the unanswered question that will secretly be hanging over eachothers heads until it is confirmed, AM I THE BIOLOGICAL FATHER?
She now argues the fact of the test with me, and i feel she just doesnt understand how i feel about it and how i just want closure on the whole thing and to be able to know for sure if its mine or not or else its just going to keep eating at the back of my mind about if the baby is really mine.
Please help, i need opinions from people who have been through this
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