I am the mother of 3 children.Ages 15,14 and 6.About 5 months ago my 15 y/o asked if he could move in @ my parents house.They live 3 blocks away and the fighting between him and his brother was out of control.I said yes,knowing that before long he would be calling me to pick him up.That day never came.He says that he cant live with his brother(diagnosed with A.D.D,epilepsy,depression,and conduct disorder)It is very trying to have to live with a child that is so emotionally impaired.I have explained this to my 15 y/o that we cant just give him away,and his answer to that is to leave the home.About a year ago I was missing a 100 dollar bill,I accused my older son,screamed @ him,and broke a piece off of his computer.Then 2 months ago the 2 got into a fight and my younger son was crying like he wasnt going to live,he told me that his brother punched him and threw him into our new t.v and broke it.I immediately accused my older son of doing this,and told him I was keeping his t.v since he broke mine.I found out the next day that while my older son did punch his brother he did not brake the t.v,my younger son admitted that he was so angry that he got punched that he threw something at the t.v and thats how it broke.Looking back now I can see how I must have hurt him when he was right all along and I am overcome with guilt.The counselor today said not to force him to come back home because it will make things worse.And while I agree,if I wait for my son to want to move back in,he will be an adult.His 16th birthday is coming up and while I feel heartbroken and unloved by him I want him back in my life.Is there anything else that I can do at this point or does it seem as though its to little to late.I would appreciate any advice,as I am writing this I feel as I have lost my son forever.
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