Avatar Posted by huttspawn 40 days ago (Question)
my brother has no respect for my mom or dad or brothers he takes things without asking he once told my mom he had no respect for her or her property. At night i sometimes cry and think life sucks. i dont know what to do im at the end of my rope. ive taken to smokeing to make me feel better but im asmatic and sometimes go into coughing fits. im only 16.


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Written by Chemar 40 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi

ok first off smoking will never make you "feel better"...just make you sick, especially if you are asthmatic

how old is your brother? Has your dad not spoken with him about this attitude toward your mom and the rest of the family?

I hope your brother realizes that he should treat your mom with more respect

Written by huttspawn 40 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

my brothers 22 and yes my dad has talked to him about it but he doesnt care and im to much of a coward to stand against him. he's violent and upredictible and im scared.

Written by JunieBeatrice 40 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I am sorry you are hurting so much. It is okay to cry and yes, sometimes life does suck but it does tend to be cyclical which means there will be good times as well as bad times. Try to hang onto that thought. Unfortunately the situation you are in now, you are living in fear everyday of your brother. Is there a teacher that you like that you could talk to? Or a school counselor? Or a pastor? Or a coach? Or an aunt or uncle? Sometimes it helps to talk to an adult who cares about you but is not mom and dad. They can be involved in the situation but be more objective. Right now you are hurting and you are also hurting youself by smoking. I think you are very much worth getting some help in dealing with your situation. It is going to take some bravery and some courage on your part to talk to someone in real life that can help you, but as you are a minor and your brother is not, your parents have a responsibility to have a safe place for you to live. Not that they probably are not trying but right now you do not feel safe in your own home and you need to speak up to someone in real life that can be there for you and help address the situation. I do not necessarily think that anyone needs to leave but there are boundaries that need to be drawn. And sometimes it comes down to someone leaving if those boundaries are not kept. But do not worry about that now, worry about taking care of yourself and getting some real help for the situation. If talking to your parents has not helped, please talk to someone else that cares about you in real life to get some support. By the way, you are not a coward. By not sticking up for yourself with him that is actually a protective measure you have inside that tells you it is too scary to stick up for yourself because worse might happen. Take care and all my best. Junie

Written by Clyde 39 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I am sorry to hear how things are going on. It does not hurt to cry, matter of fact, it probably can help you.

Please try to stop smoking, it will just make your asthma worse.

Can you talk to your school counselor or a teacher about what is going on?

I can definitely understand being scared.

Best,

Clyde


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