I am 61, my 2nd husband 60. We both have adult children, mine love him, (33yo married 2 kids) his hates me.
Since our marriage 4/2009 his daughter has been trying to cause trouble in our marriage and is pretty successful, as I am ready to let it go.
Shortly after the marriage she called her dad with one of her many tantrums to come. Crying and screaming that he doesn't come to see her and her kids. We are 1 1/2 hrs away from her. First of all, she wants him to come without me which he feels unfair as they are now my family too. (this is only the beginning of the jealousy) Keep in mind, before me he was alone and lived there with them so he was there every day. She even screamed at me saying I control her dad, what kind of woman comes between her dad and his daughter............many accusatory things.
Since then she calls with tantrums regulary. Her dad forgot to call her on her bd so she called her mommy crying, mommy called dad and told him off. Im sorry but his daughter is 33 yo, she acts like a little child. So he forgot, we all do. But is was a tragedy to her.
The next time he had his granddaughters bd wrong he thought is was one day and it was another, so again he did miss it. However, she told everyone she invited him to her bd party, which she never did. Again, another tantrum. Of course, it was my fault again. Screamed and yelled at him again and texted both of us relentlessly. To me she said, "what kind of woman are you that would come between a daugh and her dad" "you are jealous of me and my kids" "once you are gone he will be back to me and then it will be too late" all kinds of mean things. That was when I got on the phone, told her off and never spoke to her since (8/2009) I don't talk to her or see her at all and I am glad. The text to him- "are dead to me". "you are a puppet and she controls you"........and on an on. Relentless! Of course she got what she wanted, me out of the picture and he would go see the kids alone.
But she continues to cause trouble. This past time it was NYE 2011 at 12:20 am. She called him said happy NY and started again, of course, with a few drinks in her. Accused me of blocking her cell phone so she couldn't reach her dad the week before. Totally untrue of course, but she continued her tantrum for 20 minutes, then he told her he was hanging up and did. She then called my cell 2 times, then the house phone, then when that didn't work she text me "I love my dad more than you know how dare you take that away from me" " U fkn Btch, you may have him now, but the fact is he will always be mine" In all this she acts like he is an ex lover, boyfriend, husband, etc. not a father. There is something very wrong with that picture.
She is a 2 yo in the body of a 33 yo woman. She acts like she is sill a child and still daddy's little baby. Any cards she gives to him always had little girls on the front, with messages like, you will always be the only man in my life, I'm you little princess.
This situation is not about him seeing the gr children at all, it is about her and only her.
I am dealing with a child here not an adult married woman. I have taken her daddy from her. She is out of control and I am worried about my relationship with my husband. He needs to for once and for all give her an ultimatum. Either she calls and doesn't bring up me or he won't talk to her or see her ever again. Take it or leave it. Then he needs to let her know he has no intention of leaving the marriage.
I can't take any more. Please give me your thoughts. I think she is in desperate need of professional help.
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