Ive been married for 8 years and have 2 sons (6 and 4), my husband has a daughter from his first marriage and she is 21. She was a very difficult teenager (before sons were born) and by the time they came along she had distanced herself entirely from us and no contact for about 4 years, then at 20 or so she contacted my husband and they have a breif relationship and might talk once every few months or have lunch. It was a very painful time in my life with her, typical bad step family relationship. She now would like to meet up with my boys and us, which I dont think is a problem however my question is when is it best to tell my sons who are young, right now they come first in my life, and if they are too young then this would not happen, although I know I can't wait till they are adults to tell them...Im also very sad to tell them, breaks my heart actually, this ruins their 'perfect' world, mine too I guess!...lots of reservation here, my husband seems to ony think of himself and his daughter in this situation and doesn't consider our sons...so I feel very alone on this matter and also like the 'evil' step mom once again...can someone please enlighten me on this...
Thanks in advance
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