At school there is a lot of people who make fun of me, but in away how no one elce would doit, they make it so rude and mean, and they make me go to the church crying, becaue the only people that repect me is at my church, My father respects me too but lives in brampton so i can run to there. My dad called the school many times an still nothing changed. I am getting fed up with this and my mom doesnt give a crap about me... So im thinking of killing myself so im in a better place called Heaven where everything and everyone is perfect.
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Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem! It sounds as if you need someone with leverage to take your unhappiness seriously. Maybe your dad can get your mom to see that you need to change schools (many people do that and it can make a difference). Maybe you need to talk to a school counselor who will sit down with your mom and get her to work out solutions with you. Or a church elder who will intervene, or another adult who will take you seriously. If your mom is not good at handling emotions, she may be used to handling difficult situations by trying to ignore them -- many people are like that when they don't know what to do. That would be very unfortunate, but it wouldn't be a sign that she doesn't care about you. I think it's very likely that she cares very much, but she doesn't understand what you're going through or how to help. Please don't mistake that for not caring. However, you do need help. Please urge her, or get someone to urge her, to get you some counseling, to talk to school authorities who can help your situation, and/or to help you change schools. If you feel really desperate, please call a suicide hotline. They are there to help and they've dealt with all kinds of situations. In later years you will look back at this period and be glad you kept on until you got help and made it through. Please take care of yourself and don't give up. There are many people out there who want to help you -- you just have to make it easy for them to find you.
i can understand that desperate urge to believe that this is the only answer, but i beg you to believe that it is not. not because i tell you that, but because God does. you do need help, don't be scared to ask for it. not everybody in the world will turn you away. i grew up with a mother who i didn't understand and who i thought didn't love me. i thought about taking my life many times but never did because i knew deep inside that she id but she was scared to show me. i felt like it was the only solution to escape, i got bullied at school, my family never spoke to me and like you i turned to church for comfort. but it doesn't seem like you are alone as your father is there and i urge you to speak to him, what could be the worst that could happen if you did? i wish you luck and know that you are being watched over. you have made the first step by calling for help on here, now take the advice and talk to someone you trust.
Wecool, I'm glad that you came here for help, and hope you realize that not everyone is so rude like those in school. You won't always be in school with those other students, so it wouldn't be a good thing to die just because of them. They have their own problems, don't they, that are causing them to take it out on you?
I'm also glad that you do receive the respect you deserve from the church people! That's a great place to go, too, for all kinds of support. Sometimes others might not be nice there, but usually someone works it through.
I'm sorry your mom doesn't seem to understand how tough this is for you, but glad your dad stuck up for you. I would hope that you let him keep talking to those in charge at school until the other students learn to be nice (or at least not rude.)
For the school issue, if you can write down how certain people are treating you and talking to or about you, write down the actual things and when, then your dad will have exact situations to complain about. But also, if you can see the school counselor and show him/her just what you are putting up with, he/she can help you learn some ways so it won't bother you quite so much. We all had to go through some cruddy students in our schools, so we all know how it is and also that you can get through it!
Good wishes
drjean
That is not the answer. God didn't put us on earth and give us a chance at life to kill ourselves. I know what you'r going through. I am 15 and in high school. In elementary school there was a girl that I NEVER got along with, butI was shy and would always listen to her. She would make fun of me, talk about me and make people HATE me. Imagine HATING elementary school because everyone hate's you and you have no idea why. My mom called the school billions of times and still nothing. The girls got yelled at which gave them more a reason to be mean to me. I didn't tell my mom to call the school, but I came home crying so she did. I moved on to middle school and made new friends and had fun. Now I am in high school and I HATE it! I have one bestfriend and the other one seems to care about her boyfriend other than me, but you know what I went through it. I am not as pretty as my friends, I am not as "cool" as my friends, but in the end I know I am the better person for never making fun of others. All the older kids look at me and start talking, but I just walk by and I feel VERY uncomfortable, trust me. I know what it's like. If I did it, you can do it.
When those kids say something to you, don't let them get the best of you. Stand up for yourself you can be the better person and ignore them or stand up. People like us change what happens on this earth. If they call you a name, say exuse me? Don't just let them keep doing that; they just will keep doing it every day until you stand up for yourself. Don't be mean, don't talk about others. Just simply don't let them keep you down. Because you are better than that. I have tried to beg my dad for homeschooling and moving out of state. Still nothing happened, now I am going into my next year of high school, that should be fun right? But I have a good friend that keeps me bounded and you should be sociable and talk to people that have the same interests. Don't give up because everyone was put on this earth for some reason and you should atleast live your life
before letting it end. - godbless.
Hi there...
I am thrilled that your church is so good to you. I hope that the school will help you out soon.
As Jean mentioned, write down things, have precise information, so when your Dad calls, he can discuss certain issues.
Also, (and I know its hard) if you can, when things happen, either try to be near an authority figure or let them know as soon as possible. You don't deserve to be unhappy!
Best,
Clyde
Suicide will not send you to Heaven. It's a sin. You have to be strong. I was made fun of all through school, and it hurt. I felt suicidal too, but the very thought I just mentioned above kept me from ending myself. Eventually I dropped out and got my GED. What you need to do is just talk to your mom, she shouldn't be mean to you. Perhaps she doesn't realize, and perhaps you can try and change schools.