I feel weird posting this, I've never participated in any "help" sites and so I feel like a total newbie. I don't want to be judged, but I need help. Honestly I am just so lonely and confused.I have always been a strong person, but right now I am not. I am in college, I go out with my friends to parties and it's great at first, but I keep making the same mistake of getting extremely drunk and seeking attention. No, I don't make the big mistakes of sleeping with someone and such, but I know I am letting my friends down and I am too flirtatious and lead people on. It's like I crave to be a part of things and need attention. I want to be noticed. I don't know how to change. I really want to, but I keep making the same mistakes. I hate the way I feel alone, I hate this. My friends don't trust me and I feel like they won't give me a chance to change.
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(((Belle)))
What is the basic underlying behavioral reason you feel the need to drink at parties? Is it due to you feeling nervous and worried, timid, etc? at parties?
Most of the world feels that way, please believe me, you are not alone in that aspect.
Are there any ways you can get some more attention without getting drunk? Do you hang around your friends at the party before you get drunk?
Could they help you monitor your drinking?
It sounds more like self-esteem to me than anything. Please continue to talk, if you want to do so.
Best,
Clyde