Hi, I'm f, 21 and I'm the youngest of 4. I feel really lost. I have always felt different as from a young age. I have always found myself thinking alto as from a young age. I am certain i have BOD. I felt insecure at school and insecure at home. At 21 i still feel insecure at home, work and Uni. A LOT was going on at home when i was young, losing our home, divorce, bankruptcy and then a death. Now I'm finding it so hard to function everyday. If someone doesn't like me its the END of the world; if someone criticises me i hate that person and never talk to them again; if a relationship ends me doing the dumping or them dumping me its my fault, its something i have done; it hasnt gone the way i planned its me, what have i done?; i think in the 'its all or nothing' attitude which i cant seem to get out of, I feel like crawling up in a corner somewhere when things are not going my way, and im the opposite when things are going my way. I feel hate towards myself, on and off. Plus recently one failed suicide attempt. therefore im not normal!! You have probably guessed but i also suffer from anxiety and depression. I feel really angry all the time. I feel i want to punish myself. Please help!!
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Well, you are normal for who you are and how you are suffering. Here is a link to a list of the Ten most common cognitive distortions. [url]http://forums.psychcentral.com/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=230823&page=0&view=collapsed&sb=5&o=2&fpart=1p[url]
Using Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) you can adjust your thinking so you don't suffer from these situations etc. It isn't easy, partially because you have bought into the distortions and can't be sure that what the person helping you is true etc...
If you can find a therapist who works with CBT, I think you will find good progress rather quickly.
Good wishes.
drjean
Hi,
Thank you for your reply. I am wondering i have read the symptoms and the characteristics of BPD on this site and it does match with my thinking style and emotional symtoms.
D
I do agree with Jean. I also feel that if you had CBT with a therapist, it would help.
Also, a therapist that works with you side by side would be the best to diagnose you, but yes, it does seem like you meet the criteria, but of course, that is just an educated guess from reading. :)
Best,
Clyde