I have been dating a woman for about a year now. She seems extremely depressed and has often mentioned suicide. She currently lives with her parents. They are often verbally abusive, I have been witness to this. She is trying to save money so we can get our own place, but hasn't had much luck. Her parents constantly find ways to spend her money. They often treat her like she's beneath them almost like a slave. I'm not sure what to do. I really love her but to be honest I am getting tired of her anger towards me and how she seems to be giving up now.
The talk of suicide really scares me. No matter how I try to cheer her up it doesn't help. Do you think she has mental issues? Any help would be greatly appreciated.
The talk of suicide really scares me. No matter how I try to cheer her up it doesn't help. Do you think she has mental issues? Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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hay man ok now it is a hard time for her and you just as much now wht you need to do is get her out of tht enviroment becuz as long as she is in tht hell whole as i c it she will only get worse dont give up on her instead b there when she needs you especially with her parents being abusive treating her like she is bottom of the food chain dont leave her tht would be the worst thing for you to do becuz u mention suicidal thought well that might make her go through with it and from just what you said about her sounds like she might have depression and tht is hard to deal with stick with her and yeah she may get angry with you just comfort her let her know it will be ok
Melles, she surely is suffering with depression and needs help. Encourage her to see her doctor and tell them how she is feeling, and what could be causing it (the way her parents treat her.) Since she's lived in this environment, it may not be a quick fix at all, but take time in therapy and with medication to fully pull out of it. But she won't have to feel so desperate forever and can begin to feel better soon with help. Whether she can get out of that environment or not might depend upon her friends, at this point.
Being a friend and not adding to her situation negatively will help. Encourage her to do the best she can for herself, see the doctor, get help etc. In the USA there is an organization Women in Distress that can give her great resources for how to get out of abusive relationships. If she can't contact them or a similar organization herself, perhaps you could.
Don't be afraid to call help for her if she needs it. Nothing in this world is worth dying over. Things can change, and she can make it through this sad period of time.
Good wishes
drjean
Oh, yes, most definitely. I do feel she has mental health issues. You need to bring her to the doctor or therapist to help her feel better.
Why would she stay with her parents if they bother her so much? Why wouldn't she move in with you, and get off of the trauma at home?
You may have to let her do what she wants to do, after all, it is her life...but hopefully, she understands that something needs to change and change soon.
Best,
Clyde