Avatar Posted by billileli 126 days ago (Question)
My friend won't let me vent. I am all alone.


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Written by Francesca 126 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Keeping things inside can cause a number of psychosymatic illness. Instead of venting to your friend, who seems to be impervious to your plight, try to find other outlets for your grief.

Taking up an artistic hobby can be good. Seeing a therapist, or my all time favorite, martial arts. Holding in grief is NOT good. Finding a safe outlet....priceless.

Lol, I sound like a commercial.

Written by bellacutie 125 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Some people are uncomfortable talking about death and don't know how to comfort a greiving person. I hope it's not because the friend is inconsiderate - then you may have to find another friend. It is important to talk about how you feel when someone dies

You can also try writing down your feelings in a journal or going to the gravesite and actually talking there or leaving a letter there - it's not crazy to do that. You could also make a beautiful scrapbook with pictures and momentos of your aunt. As you work through the greif you will eventually reach a peaceful place where you can remember fond memories of her and smile. I hope you feel better. Hugs Bella :)

Written by Edahn 124 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Tell US. Right here.

Written by billileli 124 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Thank you. I feel like a little girl who lost her mommy. She was like a mom to me. She took care of me cause my mother neglected me. I am 41, logically, I was prepared for this, but I still feel like a little girl, sometimes and there are instances where I feel twinges when I realize I will never see her again.

Billi

Written by Edahn 124 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I don't know if anyone can anyone really be prepared for death of a loved one. I can see that you understand that and put in the word "logically" for that reason.

What were some of your best memories with her? (If you don't mind my asking.)

Written by Clyde 122 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Yes, please, keep talking. Venting is very important, or you never get over it.

You have my sympathies.

Best,

Clyde


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