Avatar Posted by corie123 33 days ago (Question)
ok ya i KNOW i need to get help..i KNOW i need to tell my parents..my whole question was HOW!!!!???? how do i tell them? what should i say? and i guess im a little scared t tell them because they have dealt with a lot with me..and i dont think my family deserve to go through all this..i just kind of feel bad for them cause im such a loser..but again i dont know how or what to say..all i know is i need help..and soon


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Written by AppleJuiceGirl 33 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Okay, first, try not to be so down on yourself. You're not a loser.

Secondly, how to tell your parents. It really depends on your relationship with them. Are you closer to one parent or equally close to both? Speaking to one individual over two could help ease up the conversation. My suggestion: You could set them down and simply say, "There's something important I need to tell you and I need you to be patient and let me explain." Just tell them you think you need professional help and "here's why." Would finding an outside source to help tell them be a good idea? Say, a counselor of some sort who can help lead you into the conversation.

Really, if getting help is dependent on your parents, you need to tell them. I hope you find help. Good luck!

Written by Starlightembers 33 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I want to start off by saying that I understand. At thirteen, I've been depressed all my life and have a history of being teased, sexually abused, mistreated at the hands of my drug addicted father, parenting my mentally unstable mother, etc. There have been multiple times where suicide seemed like the way out. It hurts more than words can express.

Saying that, I have been in the same situation you are: depressed and unsure how to tell. Due to the fact my mother's emotional response can be extreme, I was scared to tell her face-to-face. So, I decided to write her a note describing how I have been feeling and included some information about depression. A few minutes after handing her the letter, I decided just to go out and talk to her anyways. We both got a lot out and we booked a doctor's appointment that day.

If you are too scared or ashamed to talk to your parent(s) face-to-face, you may want to try out the note idea. Otherwise, just pick a quiet time and say "Mom/Dad, I need to talk to you about something important." Then just (try) to express how you feel. You may want to say something like "I've been feeling really sad and desperate lately. I think I have depression and need some additional help." If it helps, you can tell them information, facts, etc about depression (or print off information). If you get emotional, shaky or start crying during the conversation, that's OK - that's a normal reaction to this situation.

I know it won't be easy but it will be worth it in the end. I promise.

With all the love and luck,

Erika

Written by g2bhapi26 33 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

How do you tell them? You tell them like it is, and if you don't have the courage, have an adult you trust like a teacher, neighbor, school counselor, even your pastor (who is the person I went to) and explain to then how you feel.

I read your first post and this one and I'm not really sure what it is you looking for. But no one can give you the exact words to say, it's your own unique situation and your feelings are yours to interpret, but you need to interpret them. I wasted 6 months of my life in deep depression because I was afraid to let people know what was going on. But even though I could put on a good face and say everything is okay, the people closest to me could tell there was something wrong. Your parents may even sense it but they are just to afraid to confront it. But you don't need to be afraid or ashamed of what you feel. You didn't choose to have these feelings or thoughts, but if you give into them and let them sit, it will be like a seed in the very fertile soil of your depressed mind. The problem will grow and get out of control.

I think what the woman above wrote is also a good idea, if you're afraid write a note or send an email. Explain how you feel and that you want to find out how you can get help. I'm sure your parents would be supportive and help you find the help you need. I personally saw a psychologist who counseled on a volunteer basis and the only thing I had to pay for was the $12 visits to the pyschiatrist and the $3 for my meds. But don't be ashamed of what you are feeling because it is a medical condition and can even be hereditary, like with me.

I have a blog where I talk more about this stuff if you are interested. I personally, being a young woman who experienced (and still experiences) depression during my teens, might have something to say that can help you get the help and support you need.

Peace&Love,

Amy

link to my blog:http://g2bhapi26.blogspot.com/

Written by Clyde 32 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Yes, I dont get it either. All you have to do is tell them. I mean, how different would it be than any other thing?

You come out and tell them. Stop being bad on yourself, and stop being ashamed. You have something that others have had, gotten stronger from and did better with--and so will you.

Just do not give up on yourself. Tell them now.

Best,

Clyde


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