I LOST MY SON 3 DAYS BEFORE XMAS 2008 AND I CAN'T DEAL WITH IT. HE DIED IN HIS SLEEP CRYING FOR HIS BABY. HE HAD A HEART ATTACK.HE SUFFERED FROM CROHNES. HE WAS SAD AND DEPRESSED AND HAD CRIED AND BEGGED TO SEE HIS BABY ALDAY LONG BUT EX GIRLFRIEN WOULDN'T BRING HIM OUT OF SPITE. SHE NOW REGRETS IT. I JUST CAN'T SEEM TO LET IT GO AND MOVE ON. I KNOW I NEED SOME TYPE OF HELP AND DURING THIS TIME I WAS GOING THRU A NASTY DIV AND LOST 3 OTHER FAMILY MEM WITHIN 6 MNTHS. PLEASE HELP ME FEEL AT PIECE WITH THIS. I HAVE A DAUGHTER AND GRANDSON AND I HOLD ON JUST BECAUSE OF THEM. I CRY EVERYDAY BECAUSE MY SON WAS REALLY CLOSE TO ME. HIS DAD WAS NEVER AROUND. IT HAPPENED AT HIS DADS HOUSE. THANK GOD NOT MINE. I SURE COULDN'T COPE WITH FINDING MY BABY DEAD.


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bella
1707 days ago
Hi ((Wendi)),

please accept my sincere condolences for the loss of your son - I'm so sorry for your loss. It's completely understandable how you feel over whelmed by grief. I don't think there's any way to prepare for a child's death. Are you recieving any therapy or grief counselling? I'm glad you're holding on because of other family members but you're right you need to hang on for you too. Since you have many other stresses as well I think you really need to speak with a therapist. Will his girlfriend let you see his baby on a regular basis? I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and feel free to share as much as you like, Bella.



wendi nance
1707 days ago
NOW SHE DOES . BEFORE I COULD HAVE COMMITTED MURDER.I STILL FEEL ANGER BUT I KNOW IT IS APART OF GRIEF. THERE INS NO WHERE AROUND HERE FOR GRIEF COUNCLING. CHURCH HELPS ME. THANKS FOR PRAYING,GOD BLESS YOU.



bella
1707 days ago
I wonder if there's an online support group for parents who've lost children? It's normal for you to feel very intense grief since it hasn't even been 1 month. Was your son feeling ill that day? How old was he? I forgot to mention you could also join the forum section of psychcentral and post in the grief and loss area -there are many compassionate members over there. I think writing about your feelings would help you. It good you have a strong belief is God. I'm so sorry again, Bella.