Avatar Posted by Adia 61 days ago (Question)
Hard for me totype right now. I drank a ton, of tequila (not sure if its spelled right) I'm 16. My mom found out about me being gay, not dealing withit well at all.Wont talk to me, myfriend has cancer. I've been depressed before, hard I think I;m getting there again... mostly I having issues with the gay thing. Help. Cant type more. Drank too much.


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Written by remorseful 61 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Let me start by saying I hope you are ok. Please don't drink too much and do anything stupid. Not to say that you will, but I know from experience what enough alcohol can do to you. Don't get me wrong though, I know how it can help with the pain. I can't say I can sympathize with you, because I am not gay myself, but I can definately empathize. In my opinion, it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks. You are who you are and that is it. Being gay does NOT make you a bad person at all. It is simply a life choice, and there is NOTHING wrong with that. I do know there are still some people out there that do not agree with it, but that is their opinion. But I guess it's a little harder to deal with when it is your parents. I do believe in time they will learn to deal with it. I'm not sure why they feel the way they do, but I do know deep down they still love you and will always love you. They are probably in shock, and just need time to process everything. Don't be too hard on yourself. I'm really sorry to hear your friend has cancer. I really don't know what to say about that. Just know there is hope out there. I don't know how far along the cancer is, but a lot of people do survive and go on to live happy, productive lives. Medicine is on the breaking edge of finding the cure to cancer, and hopefully your fiend will be one of the lucky ones. I had a friend who died of cancer 2 years ago. It was really tough. I don't understand why "the good die young", but I do believe there is a reason for everything that happens in life. In time, you will come to realize they were obviously meant for bigger and better things than this world has to offer. All I can say is good luck with everything, and please don't be too hard on yourself because being gay is nothing at all. I believe alot of it has to do with the generation gap. Our parents, and other people out there are just not used to it as we are, so they put up their defenses. Just remember you are a special person who has a lot to offer the world. Never deny who you are, and if anything, be proud of yourself for coming out!!!! Congrats and good luck!

Written by wpowers 61 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Regardless of what anyone (including parents) think, you are sacred and holy to our Creator. Let it be Creator who has the final word for your heart. :-)

Written by Chemar 61 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi

I hope the alcohol binge is wearing off and that you are feeling better. Remember that alcohol is actually a depressant, and so where it may make you feel better initially, it can end up leaving you a whole lot more depressed (never mind the yuck hangover)

sorry to hear your friend has cancer...hope they get good treatment that will help them

re your mom, do you have a neutral family member or someone else who would be able to help mediate between you. Are you seeing a therapist for the depression? maybe they can help you discuss things more calmly with your mom. Remember she is likely reacting from shock and her own feelings about sexual orientation so dont think her being upset means she doesnt care deeply for you. It may be that she cannot accept it, and you may have to learn to live with that.

Hoping things will work out for you

Written by Adia 61 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Thanks people i'm more sober now. I got reallllly drunk.. I'd hate to say. I saw my friend with cancer waved, acted like a moron. shes an adulyt, from what my friend says I was too far away for her to see I was drunk, which is good. I'm ashamed. It help[ed with my pain... but I'll be okay. Sorry all, I really am.

Written by Clyde 46 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

It is okay...just please do not drink, period, but especially until you are an adult, and when you do, do it safely, not because of bad feelings--that just pushes them away to deal with them later.

I hope you are still better.

Hope your Mom is dealing with you better too.

Best,

Clyde


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