Avatar Posted by heartbroken24 36 days ago (Question)
My girlfriend of 2 years just broke up with me a couple days ago. The pain is intense. She says she still loves me though but wants to do her own thing. I'm afraid she will try and come back to me in the future. Do i give her the chance to do this again to me ?


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Written by bellacutie 36 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

It's normal for the pain to be intense at first. It will take time to heal. You would need to decide if you wanted to give her another chance. I think it's too premature to even tell, if she'll want to reconcile and whether you would feel secure to take her back. Sounds like she doesn't know what she wants. Try to keep yourself busy with friends and family. Best of luck, Bella

Written by dusky1 35 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Lol....I know this is not funny, but just yesterday i answered a question about a girl wanting to break up with her b/f because she wanted to do her own thing.

Taking that situation into consideration, If your g/f said she needs to do her own thing, then you need to accept that. A successful relationship requires not only that both parties know each other, but that both parties know themselves.

Wanting to be on her own, could mean that she thinks that there is some exploring of herself as an individual that she needs to do.

In such a case, it doesn't matter how much you love her or how much she loves you or how much support ur willing to throw her way, the fact remains that she has come to a point in her life where she needs to figure things out alone, or gain some more experience.

You don't want her to stay with you, with doubts in her mind and then ten years down the road things go bad and she cheats or something because she is unhappy.

MAybe the time apart will be good for your relationship in the future.

Whether or not u take her back is entirely up to you. Time will better answer that question.

Good Luck.

Written by Clyde 35 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

If she says that she doesnt want to be together, at least just try to be her friend.

I can understand your pain and hurting, but perhaps this will/would make the relationship stronger in the long term?

Give it some time.

You dont have to take her back, unless you want to, and only think about it then--because it may or may never happen.

Best,

Clyde

Written by AppleJuiceGirl 35 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I'm sorry for your breakup. I'm going through a rough time with my b/f of 2 years right now, so I think I can somewhat understand.

In my opinion, I think it would be best if you tried to move on and not worry about whether or not she'll come back to you. If she does, that's a decision you will have to make when the time comes, but it would be best if you didn't wait around for her. You and she could be very different people by the time she wants to get back together. I would say focus on yourself for now and do your own thing, like her.


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