So I guess it all started during the summer. I had just finished my freshman year at college and when I got home for the summer I quickly realized all my high school friendships were gone. I tried texting some of them and they just wouldn't text back, or when we made plans they would cancel them. So I spent those 4 months basically staying home and working out (i feel that maybe my social skills faded because of this).
Then in August school started up again, but I transferred to a new university in a different state (for better opportunities) so I was a little intimidated.
Then I quickly, very quickly, lost my social grounding. I got overwhelmed by the thought of people not liking me because my school is mostly white jock and preppy people, and I'm more of an edgy person (i have piercings, colored hair, and wear ripped jeans and tank tops) and i'm black. So I never introduced myself to anyone, and still haven't made any friends (I've been here for 2 months so far).
Now at this point I feel that it's too late to make any friendships/bonds because everyone already has their group of friends, and I'm by myself. I also wish I could get myself to talk in class, but again, i feel like people are judging me.
So at this point I have no friends, I eat alone everyday, I do nothing on the weekends or any day and it's really killing me. I had plans to make a name for myself here, to finally enjoy my life (which i didn't in high school) and it's not happening. I'm becoming depressed my energy level is very low and i feel very lonely/isolated, I feel so lost. Please help me out!!
*also i know people are probably going to say that no one is judging my style but that's all I can think of, I mean i'm pretty fit, I'm attractive, and I carry myself well (imo). So my only guess is that my style scares people.
Notice: Psych Central Answers shut down to new questions on January 11, 2013.
Looking for a place to ask your question? Sign up today for our community (you'll need a separate account than the one you use here), and ask away!
Ask and answer questions about mental health and relationship issues in a safe & supportive environment. If you ask a question, you will have to answer someone else's first, in order to give back to others here.