I met and instructor in 2003 when I was a student and until today 2008 I have not been able to forget him. I am not a young woman anymore. I am more closer of being a senior citizen. It is grazy at my age, having this deep feeling for someone who never cared about me or showed any interest. I am crazy? is this OCD? It gets me depress and I do not wish to date anyone because he still in my mind and I would not enjoy the company of another person and is like being disloyal to my own feelings if I date someone else, but I know I will never see this person again, besides he is too young for me. I believed if you love something, set free, if it comes back to you, it is yours, but if it doesn't it never was.How could I forget him? I do not want to think about him, but I do. It really bothers me.
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Hi there, I would definitely not call it OCD UNLESS the thoughts of him ruminate and they are hard to get away from. I would discuss this with a therapist--there is something in this man that you didn't or couldn't find with anyone else, so you were attracted to him and did not want to leave from that "spot in time."
You need to find out why, and a therapist would be a great way to do so.
Best,
Clyde