Avatar Posted by corie123 39 days ago (Question)
i am 13 years old and have been depressed for about a year now..i have taken just about every quiz i can find..and they all say that i have severe depression. i cut myself i have hurt myself. i hate myself and my life and blame everything on me. i wont let anybody tell me im beautiful or fun or nice. i have no friends they all hate me. i get picked on everyday at school. i fell inlove with a complete douchebag and he broke my heart 3 times and i still forgive him. when i was 8 my cousin tried to touch me. then my (ex) best friend tried to touch me again this year. i cry every night because of these things. i have gone to a therapist but i dont think it really helps.i think about killing myself all day everyday..and i know i need help. i dont know how to tell my parents. i had my (ex)friend tell my mom but she didnt do anything.if i dont get help soon something terrible will happen. please tell me how to tell my parents


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Written by bellacutie 39 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

You need to seriously tell your parents to take you to the doctor. If they don't listen, then speak to your school counsellor or teacher. Thirteen is a difficult age for many young people. Did you tell your parents about your cousin trying to touch you. My 11 yr old daughter is a brown belt in Karate - have you ever considered learning self defense. It feels great when you know how to take care of yourself. This would also help in dealing with bullies at school. Tell your parents that you've cosidered suicide. Here is a good link and know that suicides never an option.

http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/

Also know that you need to improve your self esteem - it's one of the best things you can do for yourself. When you have good self esteem and know how to protect yourself - everything else will fall into place. Good luck Bella:)

Written by NOC 39 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I'm sorry, could I use this for a paper about teenage love. I'm NOC

Written by corie123 38 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

um sure? lol

Written by dusky1 39 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I think you have a serious case of low self esteem. None of anything that happened is our fault...ppl will always be people, don't blame yourself for it. Life is hard, some have it worse than others, but if you ride it out, am sure it will pay off in the end. This is kinda funny, because I am actually depressed right now, and telling you this. Therefore, I know it's hard, a few kind words just won't do the trick. But killing yourself is not an option. I don't know you and I want you to live so am sure there are others around that do as well.

You need to find a way to get through to your parents...I know that can be hard, because I live in a family that doesn't understand depression. So I am forced to keep it to myself, because they don't understand how a teenager could possibly be depressed 'with no responsibilities' ....guess they don't know the facts of the disease. That's probably a good way to start. If you think your parents don't understand, get them some literature on it...so that when you tell them you are, they know what it is, ecause you may think they know what depression is...but do they really.

So get them stuff to read....maybe write your feelings down, so ur not bombarded and discouraged by their facial expressions and reaction when you tell them, that way you'll get everything out.

Also, find someone who understands, preferably someone who suffers from depression...ppl who don't suffer from depression can never understand how it feels and I know it can be hard dealing with that.

You need to find something to motivate you and keep you on the right track, do you exercise or play a sport?...physical activity really helps me.

But find someone to talk to, even if you get thrugh to your parents.

Don't know if i helped, but i'll check back tomorrow....just took some drugs that just kicked in and am about to fall asleep....sorry....best of luck....stick with it.

Written by Clyde 39 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I definitely think you have low self esteem. Can you print out stuff for them to read about how you feel?

Could you print out this question and answer stuff and let them read it?

I would also recommend discussing this with your school counselor. They may be able to help you find someone who can help you better as well as help you try to explain to your parents what you are going through.

Best,

Clyde

Written by dreamgirlchristina 39 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

You have probably already tried to explain how you feel to your parents and because your story sounds very familiar to me I have a feeling no matter how hard you try to get them to help you they are ill equiped to do something about your depression. They care but dont know how it feels and what to do. Go to your couselor tell him/her that you are thinking about suicide and you are a risk to yourself. Im very proud of you for reaching out I know that can be difficult. If you feel like you will kill yourself please go to the nearest emergency room for an evaluation. Sometimes you have to act on your own behalf.

Written by cdp 38 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

you have to tell your parents, if not go to your doctor and get help. ur still only 13 im 25 n ive had this shit 12 years nw n everyday is a struggle, i find even waking up hard because i dnt hv hope but you do cause your a lot younger n cn change b brave and tell your parents cz running away does'nt help trust me i ve done it for long enough and nw i accept that i have problems. you dont have to.

Written by corie123 35 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

the thing is..how do i say it? to my parents or the doctor? i think i'm just afraid..because they have dealt with so much with me..and i dont think they deserve all this stress..sometimes i just think they would all be better without me..but anyway how do i tell them or the doctor?

Written by o0mnko0 20 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I understand completley what your going through. im fourteen and i also have been to therapist and have been tested. I know it seems really scary, but the best way to tell them is just get with them alone and explain your whole story. The feeling after you do it is unexplainable. It will keep getting worse the more you wait. their your parents and all they want to do is help you in any way possible. It took me years to tell them and ironically i told them about two minutes ago. ha. and i feel like a big weight has been lifted off of me, that responsibility of my own life is in their hands and i trust them. your 13 years old you dont deserve to have to deal with this getting in your life. and who cares that you dont have friends be crazy and just have funn! thats what i do and it helps me keep my mind off of things. im sorry to here about your boyfriend. If i were you and you had the guts to do something aboutt then do it! i went on and off with a ass hole for 3 years and one day i threw a pizza at his face, and hes scared of me now.:) i hope i helped. lol. think positivee and life will be a lot better, or at least try i know it may seem hard.


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