Avatar Posted by depressedforever 77 days ago (Question)
A while ago I told one of my closest friends that I was depressed at first she was fine with it and now she totally hates me. She told others about my depression and now they hate me too she texts me and tells me how bad iv made her life. Sometimes she texts me and tells me to die I feel so bad for messing up her life I tell her im sorry but she dosent listen I cry myself to sleep because of it and I'm already really depressed. Now I have to deal with her and the others shes told everyday in school it's awful im an outcast now. And the worst thing is shes also my cousin so I see her outside of school too. How can I deal with this?


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Written by Chemar 77 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

so sorry that you have been feeling depressed, but even more so that your cousin doesnt seem to be showing true friendship toward you right now.

How could your confession of feeling depressed mess up her life? Sounds to me like she may need an attitude adjustment!

Honestly, if that is the level of the friendship, it may be a good idea to focus elsewhere.

Have you told your parents that you are feeling so down? Maybe you need a check up from your doctor to be sure all is well. Lots of things can cause depression. Did you know that research is showing that people who have low carb diets can get depressed from lack of carbs? Many teenagers also have bouts of depression related to hormonal changes and just the angst of school and life adjustments. Do you get any exercise and sunshine? Both can help with depression

these are just some ideas for you. but most of all I do hope you will see your cousin and friends are being kinda selfish by treating you this way. True friends care when we feel lousy.

hoping things get better for you

Written by Clyde 77 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Do you have any idea why she told you that you made her life bad?

Are there other things going on with your relationship with her?

Talk to your school counselor as well--you may be able to get treatment and help there for your depression.

Best,

Clyde

Written by bellacutie 77 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I think that you should tell your parents how you're feeling and ask them to make an appt. with the doctor. You could also speak with school counsellors. I can understand how this is very hurtful to you and I don't think it's your fault. She shouldn't say hateful things like this, try to put a guilt trip on you or betray you by talking about you.

I think it would be a good idea for one of your parents would to talk to her mother since she's your cousin. She may be going through a moody stage. I hope you get treatment and feel better soon. :)

Written by Storm 77 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

I suffer from depression too since I was 10 - I am now 26. I know how it feels to be afraid and misunderstood. But understand this - it is not your fault. Children are immature and silly and when you grow up you will see that your cousin is being selfish and scared. She is scared of something she does not understand, it is not your problem to make people understand how you feel - they may never. Instead focus on yourself - on hobbies that make you happy - on talking to people with depression (join a support group) - get a councellor to talk to and get better. When you are better you will have a better view of what to do with your cousin. Good Luck

Written by wpowers 77 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Each person is responsable for their own feelings. She may have been triggered by your honest conversation - and she may not be ready to face whatever is going on in her own life. Usually anger is a sign of some internal pain.

You have a couple of choices - either way don't accept the responsability for her pain because you did not say anything to intentionally hurt her.

1) Ignore her for now and let this pass. Deal with your own situation and get friends and support that you need.

2) Become an even closer friend to her. Put aside how you are feeling for a short time (you can pick it up later) and approach her with love and forgiveness. Let her know without any hate that you love her and are there for her. Let her know you see her anger and are confused by it and that you would like to help her deal with that fear.

Either way, best of luck to you!

Written by Jazi5 75 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

She doesn't seem like such a good friend or better yet cousin; I think that many people who get depressed rather keep it to themselves. Telling someone is basically reaching for help and trying to get advice on what to do...

I would say ignore her, don't let her or the others get to you, sure it will be hard, but being alone/outcast, sometimes makes you realize just what is important in your life, and what makes you happy....like self discovery...I know that probably isn;t what you wanna hear; but when this situation happened to me in school, that's exactly what I did, I found myself, and talked to a counselor about it....

Hope everything works out for you, and hope my advice helped some!

Written by depressedforever 75 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

thanks for the advice everyone.. Yeah it is hard it just makes me hurt so much watching her laughing and making jokes with other people in class like she dosent care..iv just gotten to the point where I dont see what there is to live for..

Written by Jazi5 75 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

There's LOTS to live for whether you can see it or not...I know exactly how you feel though, just DON'T give up on life, k? You can talk to people and get help...I'll help...You can get through this, I promise...


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