Avatar Posted by ILOVERJ 300 days ago (Question)
It's been 3 yrs since we got married, his family especially his mother still controlling him. They involved in everything and hard for me my husband won't move out from his family. I've tried everything but his family always the winners, eventhough he knows i'm a good wife. They told him, he has been taken care from them and now it's his turn to take care of them, otherwise he'll be disowned. They're selfish to afraid that he'll love me and forget about them but the truth is opposite, i can see his family is his priority. They expect him to support them financially to emotionally. His parents still young and his little sister is 22 but they said he's the only son that's why all the responsibilitties are his. I can't handle any longer so i took my two girls(2 and 1) away from them 1 1/2 yrs ago.I'm still going through all the depressions, I want my kids to grow up happy and loved by their parents. I've been trying to get him back but nothing seem to work.


Answers

Written by cornelious 300 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I am currently in a similar yet vastly different situation. I am worried that my wife will leave me because of my family. All I can tell you is to follow your feelings, think and pray about this issue. If this man hasn't fought to get you and his children back I am not sure that I would want him around given your situation. I am a STRONG proponent of having whole families, but also a product of a divorce.

Just remember a bad marriage CAN be worse than a broken one. The piece that is up to you is to figure out which side of that you are.

Written by Clyde 294 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I agree with what Cornelious said: a bad marriage CAN be worse than a broken one. You have to decide whether or not you are important to you.

Because the two of you separate, that does not mean that the kids wont have him anymore. The marriage is for you too, not just for him and the kids.

The kids are incredibly important, yes, but so are you.

Best,

Clyde


Log in to answer or register here.