Avatar Posted by thesheepzy2 88 days ago (Question)
Hi,

My name is ruby, im 18 years old and female. I study at college in the uk.

Anyway - i believe i have depression, in fact ive had it for a year and a few months. I did try to tell someone before but they didnt seem to care or listen - it just landed me in trouble.

I feel sad a lot of the time or down, i cant seem to sit still, i cant concentrate - my mind wonders, I find it had to get to sleep (its 1:45am now), I get sharp unexplained annoying bains in my sides, head, chest and back, sometimes im starving and other times im not hungry at all (its 1 extreme to the other) and I just get so mad at everyone for everything - sometimes i say and do stuff i regret. Also, I just started cutting myself 2 months ago.

my m8 is being really horrible about me cutting which results in me feeling worse and getting mad with her.

Im getting sick of feeling like this - i mean really sick of it. I just dont know what to do anymore. i cant tell my parents because i dont get on with them and i dont have the guts. I cant get to the doctors easily without them knowing (i dont drive, its a 5 mile walk and the busses are useless)

I really want to got up to a teacher at college or someone else and say how i feel but i am such a coward - i cant bring myself to do that again - not after last time! Anyway now that im 18 i want to know if they are allowed to tell my parents without my permission? (which is what happened last time) so can someone please give me some tips about how to start that sort of conversation off or other options. I really want to get out of this state and i am just stuck now.

Thanks Ruby!


Answers


MEdwards
88 days ago
Hi there Ruby. :)

I think it's a great thing you're looking for help. I'm not very familiar with laws in the UK, but I would think as a legal adult, you should be fine to seek help without your parents being informed.

Does your college have a counselor or student medical center? I would speak to them. They should be able to help you or, at the very least, refer you to the help you're asking for. :)

I know you mentioned you don't get along with your parents, but do you think you could sit them down and explain how you're feeling? Some people, if they haven't had any experiences with genuine depression, can think of it as something you just need to "get over." It, of course, doesn't work that way. If your parents understood that, maybe that'd be able to help you in talking to them.

Also, you're not at all a coward. :) Seeking help can be something scary, and it takes a degree of bravery to admit help is needed. I wouldn't at all call you a coward. :)

My best to you. :) I hope I was of some help.
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