Avatar Posted by helen38 22 days ago (Question)
I am a 15 year old kid and I always feel sad or lonely all the time. At school I used to hang out with a group but one of the girls bullied me and I used to cry untill my parents let me have a day of school because of it. Eventulally I did something about it and it basically stopped. I tried to find a new group of friends through old mates that I hadn't spoken to in a long time. I hang around with their group at scool but I never feel involved and I feel like half of then don't really want me there. They never invite me to go anywhere with them amd I'm to shy that i'll get rejected to ask myself. I do have one friend who was with me when I got bullied becasue she bullied him too. He didn't have the guts to stand up to her and he still dosn't really. I feel he is my only friend but he is just the same as me. I just want to feel like I have a bit of an interesting life and that i'm not stuck at home with my mum and dad all the time. My brother has OCD or something were he is obsessed with making sure everything is clean and he and my dad always argue all the time. I have an older brother who is 17 and he is worse than me, he hardly ever leaves the house, my brothers don't seem phased by the fact they have no life though. Sometimes I want to blame my parents for assuming things such as we'll all go to a craft fair with them next weekend. I always think to myself what if we want to have our own lives. My dad acts really childish and I feel my parebts are abit too protective over us and that they treat us like we are younger than we are. Once I got invited to go out to a theme park with a bunch of people but they didn't let me go because they didn't know the person who would drive the mini bus. So I just spent another weekend feeling alone amd sad. I never feel comfortable in social situations either and I don't mind If I don't have te best social life in the world I just want to feel happy with my life. I always feel emabarrased to talk to even my parents about things that I enjoy doing because they are what people would call 'sad'. I'm into thing like harry potter and doctor who and I'm scared if I tell people they'll make fun of me. What can I do??


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Written by bellacutie 21 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I never realized until I had my own daughters, how complicated the social dynamics can be at school, especially between girls. I have a 7 and 11 yr old so I speak from experience. Girls can bully in physical ways but they also bully socially by using manipulation and alienation tactics. Good for you for sticking up for yourself. I purchased a book called 'Queen Bees and Wanna Bees' and it explains the complicated social order and the struggle for hiearchy within the groups. There's always one girl who is the Queen Bee and she has her little followers. There are nice queens and mean ones - sounds like you encountered a meanie. Now you're struggling to join into another group and find your position. Also it's disappointing to realize how fragile friendships are at this age - one day you're best friends and the next day the girl acts like an enemy. Try not to let it bother you and concentrate on being nice, positive to your school friends and do well in school.

Written by Clyde 20 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Whats wrong with Harry Potter and Dr. Who?

I loved comics like X-Men and Dr. Strange when I grew up, and I dont think that I am something bad or whatever.

Can you talk to your school counselor or a teacher and let them know how you are feeling?

Best,

Clyde


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