Avatar Posted by Gabe 68 days ago (Question)
Okay so where should i start well my mom is really stressed out and shes stressed out alot!So for the pass couple of days she has been getting into fights with my step-dad and arguments with my sisters.Well basically she gets to the point where she says that shes "TIRED OF LIVING" and "SHOULD BE WITH MY AUNT" who passed away.. And she also said that "SHE FAILED AS A MOTHER" So this really worries me because i dont want her to become suicidal and im not quite to sure what to tell her?? please can anyone help?


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Written by Thumbelina 68 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi Gabe. This must be pretty scarey for you. Yes, moms do get stressed out. Having fights with one's spouse and children sure can make it worse, too. She may say the things that she's saying out of frustration. Does she have a history of being depressed? Has she ever taken medication for depression? I wonder if you and she might have a little time together, just the two of you, where you can tell her that you are concerned about her and that sometimes the things she says upsets you and makes you worry about her. Do you know the signs of clinical depression, Gabe? If you would like to know, you can go to a place here on PC where the signs are listed:

http://psychcentral.com/disorders/sx22.htm

If you think that your mom has these symptoms, talk with her about it and tell her that you are worried about her. She doesn't have to have all of the symptoms at the same time in order to have genuine depression.

I think it might really help you to talk with her. If you can't talk with her, maybe you could talk with one of your sisters or another older relative you trust. There should be a way for you to get some of these feelings you are having out into the open and talk about them. I know what it's like to be afraid of something happening to your mom.

I wish you the best of luck. Keep us posted on your progress.

Written by downup28311 68 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Is mom known for being a "drama queen" and exaggerating things, kind of spoiled and expects "her way or the highway"?

If you answer yes to most of those questions, probably family therapy and/or counseling is called for. Family therapy is necessary because the family has allowed this behavior and she's learned what to do to get what she wants. Everybody has to learn different ways, not just one person.

If this is something new and/or recent, and not her usual behavior, Mom needs to get into see her family doc just as soon as possible. The family doc will be able to make whatever referrals are necessary.

Written by justsam 67 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi Gabe,

Does your mother read? I know of a good book (easy to read) about a woman who is going through a depression. I found it brutally honest and true to life. We follow her through her attempt to recieve medical help to get better. I'd recommend you buy the book and give it to your mom to read. It might help if you read it first. Good luck.

Written by Clyde 49 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

It might help if you said what the book was too ;)

I do think having your Mom see the family doctor would be good.

I am also very proud of you for trying to help her.

Best,

Clyde


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