Avatar Posted by PaperPlanes 374 days ago (Question)
Yeah, you probably heard this scenario over and over again. Of someone that was once happy and had a perfect life planned. And then it faded away. Mine isn't much different. I used to have a goal in life. I used to wake up everyday feeling like it was just one step closer. I used to live my life without worry, anxiety, or any kind of confusion. But then it literally felt like I woke up one morning and everything ended. And I tried over and over to get that happiness back but it was no use. And that's why I'm here. It all started I feel like when I met a friend. She introduced me to drugs. I enjoyed it obviously. It was the only thing in life that mattered then. Just getting high with friends. Just living the moment. And now I have no dreams or goals in life. Everything is just gone. Everyday I feel like I'm dragging myself to school just to find myself skipping class again. Don't get me wrong I'm not an addict of any kind. Its just that I would choose getting high than school any day. When it used to be the other way around. I mean I just really want to have a good future planned out for me. I want to do something in the future that I LOVE. I'm only in Grade 10. I still have time. Anyway...Hope you can help me through this as my future depends on it. =)


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Written by Edahn 374 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

HEY! What's up.

I know exactly what you mean. Believe me when I tell you that hope and motivation (which, I think, is what you're talking about) is not something that you can lose and never get back. Everyone, and I mean everyone, has natural hope in them that's always there; it just gets covered up sometimes. You don't have to fight yourself to uncover things, just have patience and stop using drugs. It's that simple. It'll come back slowly, piece by piece. Do you think you can do that? The drugs haven't ruined your life in any way, they're just a little turbulence in a long, smooth flight.

Written by kubikcat 372 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

Sounds like your not happy with "just getting high with friends" and are starting to be concerned about missing so much school.

It's okay to get help with this. Acknowledging you have a problem does not make you a hard-core addict. But it is important to accept that what started out as friendly curiosity/experimentation has become a real source of pain.

I know school can be a drag sometimes, but is there some part(s) of it you really "get into"...music, art, math, science, school newspaper,something??...

Do you have any "pro-school friends", teachers, or counselors you can reconnect with? Can you talk with a trustworthy/caring parent, aunt or uncle, older sibling or coach about what you are struggling with?

It's a positive sign you are concerned for your future. You deserve a good education and friendships not centered around drugs. I'm not moralizing here, believe me. It's all about keeping your best, and as many, options as wide open as possible.

You can do it! And I hope you don't have to plan for a "perfect" life. That sounds like a lot of pressure. You say you had a goal. If it's still a good fit, there's no reason to think you can't get back to it. If you need to experiment/explore other goals, nows a great time! Take small steps. Never question your right or your ability to take care of yourself and change course, if drugs are getting in your way.

Written by Clyde 368 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I agree--is there something you can get into that you can enjoy? Something new that will help you satisfy your feelings of inferiority?

Best,

Clyde


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