Avatar Posted by chelsea 33 days ago (Question)
Hi im 15 years old and I have been having some trouble at home, im not wroking well at school because i am so stressed and then when I faila lesson or get in trouble from my mum and I get stressed at and she yells at me and It begins to make me feel shallow! My mum has a boyfriend and He is not very nice to me or my brothers, sometimes he yells at us and make us all feel bad. Sometimes I feel like the only thing left to do is to commit suicide I have mannaged to control myself from doing that but I get soo stressed out at home! I keep having fights with mum and It makes me cry because I love her but at the same time I hate her and I can't keep dealing with all this aggony in my life, I am not copeing any more and I keep telling mum that I am going to move out of home, we recently had a fight and she threated me and told me to GO!!! I have been telling my friends that I am going to move out of home and I have asked some of them If I could live with them but I can't I don't have anywere else to go and My Aunts and Uncles live to far away from me and My nan is over sea's at the moment.
I want to keep going to this school because I have great friends here and they always support me But I just don't want to continue living at home anymore.

Is there anyway I can get into foster care or anything like that? Because I honestly can not stay at home ANYMORE!!

Cheers;
Chelsea d xx


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Written by Amaricanwomen 33 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hay Chelsea I know what you are going through cause it's almost the same way at my house. the way I lose my stress is go outsike away from everybody and screem and won't come back for a little while but that's me. you could tell you'r school what is haping in your house. that's how my cousin whent to live with her dad instead of putting up with the fighting in the house. Talk to you later Kendra

Written by Amaricanwomen 33 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

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Written by Chemar 33 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi Chelsea

do you have a counselor at school that you can talk to about all this?

will your nan be back from overseas soon? if so maybe you can talk to her about what is happening at home and she could arrange with your mom for you to move in with her

that really would be so much better than trying to seek foster care. although there are many very caring foster families, you just may be going from a bad to a worse situation

please remember that nomatter how bad things seem now, it wont last forever but suicide is not the answer. In just 3 years you will be 18 and able to move out legally and make a life for yourself

hope things work out for you.

Written by bellacutie 33 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

I agree with Chemar- there's no guarantee foster care would be any better, plus your mother would need to relinquish her rights - which we don't know she would do. I think you should speak with school counsellors about problems at home. If you're having difficulty with keeping your grades up - then get extra help. Remember doing good in school will be your ticket out!!! What about your real father?? I also agree living with your Nan is a good idea.

I really dislike it when I hear about boyfriends or stepdads being overbearing. He should butt out and let your mom handle her kids.

For now concentrate on doing good in school and helping out at home. Try to dodge the trouble as much as possible. Suicide is NEVER the answer no matter how bad the situation. Like Chemar said you'll be 18 in 3 yrs so hang in there and make the best out of it. Remember a good education is your ticket to independance and don't assume the grass is always greener on the other side. Best of luck, Bella

Written by chelsea 32 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I lived with my nan for 2 terms in 2005 but it didn;t work out, we had too many fights. My dad walked out of the house in 2003 and We haven't seen him since then, no one in my family knows were he is, and sometimes I wish I could see him but I don't know were to start looking. 3 years is too long to keep living at home, I need to move out NOW!!!

Cheers, Thanks for all your help

Chelsea xx

Written by bellacutie 31 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Thanks for the reply Chelsea. Let me give you some wise advice - never make important decisions(like moving out) when you're upset. The exceptions being physical or sexual abuse. Now I don't know you so bear with me. You say you lived with your Nan for a while but got into too many fights. So you fight with your Nan and your mom/boyfriend - since we know it takes more than one person to fight - what part of the fighting are you willing to take responsibility for??? In other words - how can you improve your behavior and communications skills to make life easier for you?? Have you tried looking up your Dad on Facebook or some other source?? It's very important in life to choose your battles wisely and let the small stuff slide. Problems between teenagers are very common. Have a talk with your mom and tell her you want a fresh start and you don't want the boyfriend interfering. Threatening to move out won't solve the problems, plus you don't have anywhere to go - you don't want to end up on the street. Speak to your school counsellors and let them be an advocate for you. Please take a look inside you, to see if you can improve what you do and how you react to problems. I want you to know I'm not blaming you here, but maybe if your mom sees a change in you - then she might improve herself. I realize it must be very difficult living with your mom's boyfriend and you must be feeling sad that you don't see your father. I understand how that must hurt but please hang in there and do your best to get along. I really want things to get better for you. Feel free to talk anytime with posting new questions. :) Bella

Written by Clyde 32 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi there.

I took out your full last name on the first posting you had. You have to be careful on the Internet, because it can be back tracked to you, and people can be malicious on the net.

I definitely would recommend talking to the school counselor or a teacher at school to see what steps need to be taken.

Best,

Clyde


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