Avatar Posted by thisisme20 313 days ago (Question)
I have been doing some research for myself on differnt disorders to try to find out what was wrong with me. Because i know that im just not feeling right and i've have been suffing with deppression since the age of 14. it has gottin worse and i have been concemplating suicide again. Anyway I was searching on the internet and found that i had the same symptoms for borderline personality disorder. My moods shift all the time. I can be fine some moments and other moments im sad angy and ready to end my life. I reached out to my mother for help and told her how i was feeling, i never told anyone ever about my problems she is the first to know. I told her how i was feeling and ask her if she would come with me to therapy. She just jokes around and brushes it off like its no big deal. It really hurts me because i never told anyone about this and i thought that if i told her she would try to help me, but now i feel more alone and more hopeless. Im really considering suicide because nothing good has come from my life, and i feel like im not helping any by being here. PLEASE HELP I NEED ADVICE


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Written by radmaker3 313 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

It can be difficult for people close to you to accept the possibility of a mental illness, and that may be why your Mom isn't acting like she cares. If you feel like you would benefit from therapy, then go ahead and go. It sounds like basically something's gotta give. There is help out there, especially for depression. It takes a little effort, but the right anti depressant can make a big difference. So I would really encourage you to meet with a psychiatrist, or a psychologist. The psychiatrist would be able to prescribe you an anti depressant if you are struggling with depression. But certainly try to take comfort in the fact that things can get better.

Written by source 313 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

I could understand your hurt when you open up your heart to your mom and yet she seems not care. Most mom love their kids but might not know how to show it or help their kids because they themselves have issues of their own that they do not know how to resolve.

It does takes a little bit of guts to go see a therapist but you will probably overcome that once you start it. I don't know whether how young are you or whether cost is an issue. Do know that there are free sessions available if you need. Also there are non-profit groups that you could join that meet either in person/on-line. You could find them on the net. These group are a good start as you will meet people whom you could relate to. Once you go for a few more times you will start to feel a belonging and very soon you will feel at home. I believe these groups are also here on this site. Connecting to groups give you support, friendship and there you could find a world of information and the reassurance that you are not the only one.

You might also want to read some self-care books. You could probably get a lot of recommendations from groups. The one I read a long long time ago was "Take Time for your Life" by Cherlyn Richardson. I think there have been a lot more since then.

No matter how bad the situation is, there is always a way out. Remember loving yourself is the key. Go and take the first step today, learn ways to love yourself, keep walking on the path of healing. One day you will find that life is so beautiful and joyful.

I am open if you need any further advice or friendship. I wish you well.

Love and Blessings

Written by Clyde 313 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

It is also very possible that your Mother isnt being too supportive because she doesnt want to believe that there is something going on with your mental illness.

Perhaps she has mental health issues of her own, and is hoping by wrongly trivializing it that it will make it disappear.

Please do not do anything rash. Call 1-800-SUICIDE if you have to, or see the therapist alone, if you have to do so.

I wish you well.

Best,

Clyde

Written by bp2hope 312 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

HI, I am proud of you for the efforts you have already made to help yourself! You have been using online resources, you have posted here. I commend you for reaching out to your mom, and I'm sorry she didn't seem very supportive. Have you made any progress yet toward meeting a therapist? Is there anyone else in your life you could talk to? A school counselor? youth pastor, teacher, other relative or friend?

Please write back and let us know how it's going with you. Finally, here's a link I'd like you to click on and read: it's really helpful when you're feeling suicidal, and it contains good resources. http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/

Written by KimCurry 311 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I know the pain you feel. I got better after 3 years. It sounds like like your mother dosnt understand depression, you see some people think the phrase "life is what you make it" which is in some aspects, true but in others not. You cant help you're depression, and if you are over 18, you can find help without consent. It should not be so much about what she thinks. If I were you, I would search around to find a good doctor, and therapist. Believe me there are many people out there who inderstand how serious it is., and I know it is hard to talk to some one about it. It can also be hard to find someone who understands to the full extent of depression, unless they had it themself.... in which case, I suggest group therapy, where you can meet and talk to others who do have it, and they will be supportive. If you have soicial skills issues, group therapy with others like you can have a great effect. It can and will help with with anything. Make sure to ask about medicines for depression to a doctor.


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