Avatar Posted by lovesux 84 days ago (Question)
I was in my teens when my cousin and I started feeling for each other. We both were in love for seven long years and then one day I introduced my best friend to him. Three of us joined a consultancy. During these seven years our relationship was very intimate except for the fact that we didn't have sex. We were so in love then. One day both of them met at a net cafe and when I called them, they didn't pick my call. We used to meet at a net cafe. That used to be our regular spot but that day they lied to me saying they didn't see each other until I found it out. I came to know through my cousin's mail to his friend that he was in love with my best friend from the very first day he saw her. They were seeing each other without me knowing the fact. My best friend never knew my cousin was in love with me. I didn't tell her either because she's close to my family. When I came to know this I was brokenhearted and I moved out of his life but he didn't let me go. He said stuff like he loves me and can't live without me. It became hard for me to trust him anymore. Later I moved to US for my Masters and it's been 2 years I graduated. I came to know through mutual friends that he's been dating my friend for five years now. Now my best friend got engaged to someone else. My cousin is feeling bad. My best friend stopped talking to me and I was like dead inside. I became a stranger to my friend. My cousin wants me back now. I know he's feeling bad for she left him but he's not taking my feelings into consideration. I so loved him and he just moved out of my life. Even when he was dating her he used to text me saying he loves me and that he can't live without me. The feeling that he was in love with someone else is killing me from inside. And the feeling that he wants me back just because of her absence is even more paining. What should I do now? I love him so much that I can't even imagine anyone in his place. Should I get back to him or let go. I would have died by now, had I been brave enough. Please help me!


Answers


bella
84 days ago
Hi lovesux - sorry you're so sad about this confusing love triangle. Are you from a culture where getting involved with cousins is tolerable? Usually this is frowned upon and you could chalk it up to being young/not knowing better. When loving someone causes more than the usual emotional pain, this is when you know its unhealthy. I'm assuming you're in your 20's and this should be a time to experience healthy attachments.

If you want to continue being just friends and have a normal cousin relationship, that's fine but I don't know if that's possible. I don't think you can blame your best friend, since she didn't know you both had more feelings. All we can do is learn from relationships that don't turn out well. I think you should move on and let that part of your feelings stay in the past. Best of luck.
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Chemar
84 days ago
Hi

I don't know about the laws in your country but in the USA, cousins are not supposed to have relationships.

Why did you friend stop talking to you? You did not interfere with her relationship with your cousin and it was her decision to become engaged to someone else??

I just do not think this is the right relationship for you, especially as he is now on the rebound from that relationship with her.

Better you should find someone who is not a relative, and who doesn't have feelings for someone else.
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