Avatar Posted by coachllama 109 days ago (Question)
I am a 15 year old boy, and have been dealing with a large amount of changes in my life. In the past two weeks, my girlfriend of two years broke up with me, my mom has gotten pregnant with a child at age 46, and I will be dealing with the stress of transitioning from a junior high school into a high school.

My girlfriend was my first, and we dated for two years. I'm still madly in love with her and she has moved on and is about to start dating one of my friends. I feel like she is the only person I will ever feel this passionate about, and now feel unattractive and unwanted..

Moving on to my next problem which is somewhat more long-term, my mom has recently revealed that she was pregnant. At first I was very excited, but then realized that she is very old and there is a chance that the baby will somehow be deformed or handicapped. I consulted them about this and they told me if this happened they would abort the baby because they can't hand a special child at this point in time. I'm left with very mixed feelings.

And lastly, I will be in 10th grade which where I live is the first year of high school. I decided to take as many advanced classes as possible so I could live up to my brothers and parents expectations. I am worried about not being able to handle all the work and fail.

Normally I would be able to handle these problems with time, but with them all happening so fast I'm not sure that I can. My family and friends are very very supportive, but I still don't feel good. Usually my ex-girlfriend would re-assure me. But after I went to her seeking re-assurance she was mean to me and made me feel worse. I have stayed in my room straight for about the past week, occasionally I will talk to my parents or brother and they will make me feel a little better but soon after that I feel just as bad.

I am confused, stressed, and depressed. Does anyone have any advice they would be willing to give me?

Thank you for listening




Answers

Written by Edahn 109 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

I think you can handle it. A little confusion is okay. You seem bright enough to be able to weather through these challenges using your intellect and sense of humor. My best advice would probably be to take your mind off of your worries for at least 2 hours a day and just do something you enjoy that makes you feel cool. I mean it.

~E.

Written by coachllama 109 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

thank you : )

Written by SuperInferior 109 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

as for the studies. You might find them too hard to handle and have to drop out of one or two of them. If your parents are very mature they will see that as a good thing because you will make our parents proud by doing what you can and pushing yourself. Not by trying to copy or exceed others which means very little in the long run.

Sorry about the baby though. I'd feel sad if they were willing to abort the little kid because he wasn't very well in anyway...

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Hope all goes well sweety and you will over time feel more able to deal without your gf. It might still hurt, even for years, but it's probably hard for her too if she was being mean to you, it might have been beause she wanted her space to get over you also.

And if she trying to date others, its also to get over it.

I think she probably misses you and still would have memories of how she felt for you, or maybe has some of them. I'm not saying go and chase her to find out of course, but, it just might help you understand if she acts oddly. Its not personal.

Hope you feel better soon. =]

Written by bellacutie 109 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

I think it's normal to feel sad since you're experiencing alot of challenges and changes at the moment. It's normal to feel like crap when your 1st love ends. Just try to be patient and time will gradually make you feel better. Don't worry about school and trying to keep up with your brother. It doesn't do any good to worry about things in the future -just do your best.

Is your mom going to have an amniocenteesis done to screen the baby for Down Syndrome? This is the only way to find out if the baby will have this. Its very normal for you to have mixed feelings about the possibility of your mom aborting the baby. I pray that the test will come back negative and she'll have a healthy baby. Many parents of Down Sydrome children have no regrets about keeping their baby because they are joyful children by nature.

Try to keep yourself busy and get out of the house. I hope you feel better soon. Hopefully once you start school you'll feel better. Good luck.

Written by Clyde 109 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

It is normal to feel sad about all the challenges going on. Allow things to progress slowly, and find a way to keep doing your best.

Keep yourself busy and find things that make you happy and full of joy.

Best,

Clyde


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