Avatar Posted by TMS 117 days ago (Question)
When I was younger around 5 i guess I was molested by my brother. It became an ongoing thing for about 5 years. Never told anyone, was always scared it wouldnt matter and didnt want to ruin my family. Time passed anf when I turned 12(6th grade) I entered I guess a stage of depression. I was so mad that my parents never noticed anything different about me, I took it as if they didnt love me,And only they loved my sister and cared for her. I envied my older sister but also for many other reasons. All sorts.. I was so mad all the time. Very disrespectful and mean. I never wanted to be home with my family Id rather be at a friends or with my close aunt. This went on till I was 14/15,(9thgrade)(2004) My Dad just spent his time making my life worse while my mom was hurt and worried. She figured I was just Bi-polar. So when i got to highschool I met someone who became friends w ith forawhile. Took my depression away right away, I was so happy all of a sudden. I was just able to let everything out to her. Everything that happened to me she knew. Didnt judge me, kept it to herself and kept an eye on me. Like i just needed a real good friend. Mistaked friendship for love, because i just needed someone to care. and yea became an on and off relationship till now. Im 20! A lot of things has happend between us over the years, and I know this has to be It. I lose my temper to quick. I become somewhat Phsyco. I just know its not good for me. So its over but now Im feeling depressed again . I feel like everything i do is wrong. I feel like theres no retreat. Like i cant find a way to make me happy. I dont want to be who I am anymore, but think its to hard to change now. I feel stuck, And i dont want to be like I used to and let It ruin me or get any worse. So i decided Im going to seek help froma professional. I just need someone to talk to who I dont know and know who will just be able to listen to me anf tell me what i want and i need to hear. But what kind of help do i need? From what kind of therapist? Is here different kinds? How do I find one? What do I say or do? Do you think I really need one? Or do you have any better advice?



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Written by marielv 116 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Yes I think you need to see a therapist, they will listen and help. You must have some severe pent up emotions from what your brother did to you. What your brother did to you will affect you negatively for the rest of your life if you do not go and talk to a professional about it. It's good to have close friends or people in our lives that we feel we can open up to, that only lasts for so long though, and they are too close in connection with our lives. You need someone external that is trained to deal with your issue, and that you go and see to talk about it. A neutral party that has professional experience in dealing with what you're going through. You can do a search online (google is good) for "therapists in your area/city". There is a range of them out there, sometimes they have their own websites or will tell you what their specialty is if they have one, for example "abuse". But that doesnt mean you have to go to only ones that specialize in something specific. The important thing is to read their synopsis and see if it's something that could work for you. You must feel comfortable with them,that you can open up to them. look at several and then when you think you've found one that you might want to go see, contact them, they usually have an email or phone number. You should most definitely see a therapist, with time you can most certainly overcome the issues you're dealing with now. Here is a website you might start with, but I would also look up "therapists in (your city/area)" in google

http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_search.php

Written by linda0202 116 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I think that marielv's advice is very good. If you have any friends who have been to therapist and you trust their opinions, you might ask them who they have been to. You don't have to tell them what it concerns. Also, don't be disappointed if you don't think that the first therapist you go to see doesn't "click" with you. It takes time to establish a rapport sometimes. And sometimes the best therapist are not the ones who tell you just what you want to hear -- i find that the ones who challenged me have helped me to grow the most. Afterall, they can't give you a solution, they can only take your hand and help you find your own solutions. hope things get better!

Written by Clyde 115 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I like marielv's advice too. If you know anyone who has been with a therapist before, talk to them and get their advice.

Like Linda said, you dont have to tell them (the people) your troubles.

Best,

Clyde


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