Avatar Posted by zor 72 days ago (Question)
i always feel like my sister is doing things to annoy me.. like she'll pick up my stuff n keep them in weird places.. and ill spend ages trying to find em.. when i ask her why she does it she'll say that she doesnt like my stuff lying around.. and why am i such a freak.. sometimes she'll spend the whole day teasing me .. saying shes just playing with me.. and when ill be so annoyed that ill be near exploding with anger.. she'll be like relax.. and why cant i be normal like other ppl.. when all along she had been triggering me by saying stuff about stuff im really touchy about.. like my grades.. i hate her so much then that i feel like i'll kill her.. i really wanna slash my wrist then.. i used to cut myself but then i stopped.. i really want to.. cos i feel so angry that i cry and cry.. my eyes will be all swollen .. but i dont cut myself anymore .. i want to .. but i know ppl will ask me abt it so i dont.. i dont really wanna kill myself .. its just a really good way to get rid of the anger and all those depressing thoughts.. i feel better when i think this is all cos of him or her.. my dad says im an awfully shallow selfish person.. but my other brother and sister call me the sweetest person ever.. today.. my sister who annoys me.. started crying... shes 23 and im 18.. and said that im so mean to her.. and shes so nice to me.. and i forget all the nice things she does for me and remember all the negative things.. which she never means to hurt me by doing.. i felt like im awful .. but the truth is .. that she has done the largest mount of things that have made me cry.. and i just cant forget .. i know its negative thinking but what can i do? like she'll be going somewhere and ask me how she looks and ill be like good.. and then she'll start dissing her outfit and her looks.. and ask me again n again.. and then ill be like i dunno do whateve u want.. and then she'll be say that im such a huge bitch and shes never gonna advise me on anything.. the truth is i always make her feel better.. thats like obligatory or something.. about her college.. her looks .. her weight .. everything.. but she forgets all that.. what am i her slave? i need to oblige her in every way.. while she orders me about? i feel like i should just get away.. run away.. what the hell? am i crazy or are these ppl crazy?


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Written by Chemar 72 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi

I sure hope getting all that out made you feel a bit better.

It's hard when we feel people are picking on us, isnt it...especially when they are family.

I am so thankful to hear you have the cutting under control. Good for you!

Honestly, it does sound like maybe your sis is the one who has some issues. The best you can do is to just continue to be as nice to her as you can and try not to let any of the negatives from her get to you. I know that wont be easy, but letting her upset you isnt good for you and just brings you down. Just focus on being the best person you can and hopefully she will realize how unfair she is being to you.

Hope that helps a bit :-)

Written by Thumbelina 72 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Your sister is playin' you. It's a sister/sister thing. She knows how to push your buttons. This is a great chance for you to practice up for all the jerks in the world. I'm not kidding! You are a sensitive person and that's terrific. But this sister of yours is giving you a great opportunity to learn how to let things run off your back! The next time she's sayin' things that she knows you are touchy about, try real hard to not react and then say something like, "What? Oh, sorry, I didn't hear you." After a while, if you keep it up and she sees she's not getting reactions out of you, it won't be so much fun for her anymore. You know that she loves you but she's just doing the big sister thing, "torturing" her little sister. My brother used to do the same thing to me. So, really, you could use this to really get tough and prepare yourself for the uglies out in the world. I hope you can turn this around and kind of tuck your sensitivity away and practice not letting her get to you. Best of luck to you.

Written by Clyde 50 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

It definitely sounds like she is the one with problems. If you can turn it around and show her she has the issues, not you, then things will get better.

Best,

Clyde


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