Avatar Posted by Zombiebunnie 454 days ago (Question)
So i have this friend. or at least she says we're friends. but she just doesn't seem like it most of the time.

she is very sexually active. has cheated on her BF many times. she doesn't even know if she's going to continue dating him even after he took her back because she has been talking to numerous other guys. she owes me almost 200 dollars and my BF 4000 dollars but continues to spend money on clothes even when she knows she has bills piling up. She have very low self worth.

her mother at father were never really parental. she spent most childhood moving ( mother in military) and being shipped off to live with her dad/grandmother in the uk. but while she was there she went to boarding school. was kicked out of the house around 15 ( give or take a year) because she didn't wanna join the military like her mother. spent time "back packing" after that she went back to her mother and agreed to join the military and after three years there they kicked her out because she has crones (sp?) disease and they said it would cost too much to keep her healthy. it's been a year or more had has yet to get money from GI bill. she cannot hold a job. either they fire her within a week or she quits. she doesn't like to deal with people. if she is angry and you try talking to her it will maker her more angry.

she thinks that she has sexual addiction and has agreed to some of the stuff on the wikipedia page for it.

Today a roommate accused her of stealing and she doesn't have rent money for this month and someone is trying to move in before she is even moving out. so she started to pack her stuff up.

so. i was wondering how i could talk to her about getting our money back, and how i could best help her deal with these problems she has. she has no insurance and no money. me and my BF will not invest in her any further but we are worried that she will try and commit suicide. she says things that point us in that direction alot.

thank you for reading my long ass post. i hope to hear from you soon.

she


Answers

Written by iamtired 452 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

It sounds like you're friend is going through a lot. And has gone through a lot. It could be possible she has a personality disorder, but she should go see a doctor. She has a lot of traits from what I read that sounds a bit like Borderline, and it sounds like it is getting in the way of her getting along in life.

I'd suggest if you are worried about her attempting suicide, which is very prevalent with people who have borderline features, I hope you get her to a doctor. Tell her it will help if she sees a therapist. She may or may not be open to it. But tell her it could help get her back on her feet.

You say she has no insurance, so paying for it may be a problem. But for her safety I really suggest she sees a doctor, or talks to a mental health professional.

Best of luck.

Written by Clyde 451 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

She,

It sounds like the best thing to do is treating her first. If you can get her to go to a therapist, and work through these issues, that would help you in the long run.

I think as long as she remains untreated, she will not pay you back a penny. As soon as she literally and truthfully gets back on her feet, perhaps she can begin paying you back?

Best,

Clyde


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