So okay, I am a depressive person seeking help in several ways and my question is this: Why aren't my friends and husband being supportive?
I have tried to explain it to them but I guess they don't really care because they literally turn their backs to me. My husband says he doesn't understand how I feel but refuses to listen to me about it or read up on the subject even though I bought him a book which would be very helpful. The book, by the way, is "Talking to Depression" by Claudia Strauss and I found it to be easy reading and very helpful in explaining how depression feels to the sufferer and what kind of things are helpful and what isn't.
My girlfriends just change the subject when I mention how I feel. As if I am just there to be their sounding board they change the subject to themselves and their petty issues. After spending time with any of them I actually feel worse. I have even (and not dramatically) mentioned suicidal tendencies and none of them has ever so much as made a supportive comment to me such as "Oh no, please don't do anything like that!".
I really have no evidence that anyone cares. Do they not believe my pain? How can a friend not be able to muster up some sympathy for me when I have always been there for them to talk to? Are my relationships really that one-sided and I never knew because I never needed help from them before? Seriously, I believe a stranger would care more.
I am kind of shocked at their reaction because I used to think they cared. But all evidence is to the contrary. I think I really am all alone in this world.
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