Avatar Posted by sakurakagome 28 days ago (Question)
I see so many people so happy around me, but I have none of that happiness. I see people laughing having a great time with their friends who they consider to be like siblings, I have none. I see people hug each other, I get hugs so randomly and most of them are fake. I see people who like who they are on the outside, but I don’t. I see so many things that bring happiness to others, but I just here in my room locked up with nothing to do. I never have a friend to really spill and talk about everything, but there this one person that has come so close to me but I feel like they don’t see me the say way it hurts. I live as a lie, pretending to be happy but I truly never am. I am not a loner per say but I feel like one. I can be surrounded by people but they seem to just ignore me as if I was not there, they make me feel like trash without knowing, left out as if I didn’t want to be heard. What is wrong with me? Why am I so unhappy? I seriously try to be happy, but why should I kid myself I am not. I try to be myself I wish I could truly be myself, but I cannot. I am quiet for a reason, people don’t want to hear me when I speak, they don’t listen to what I have to say. I try to and am nice to people but they do not seem to see what I do, and am trying to do. This is the same for situation here and everywhere, especially in school. I have no friends none what so ever. People tend to talk to me but just a quick chat, nothing else. I understand my obsession for book, movies, and telenovelas because when I watch/read them I can place myself in their feet wishing that I was living there life even though it was hard at times but they always had someone and the they would always just become happier. Family is not enough. Not even when your family part from your mom and dad and brother cannot seem to get along and there so many fights. I just wish that someday I will be happy. That is why I am so caught up in school getting all a’s and I am scared that if I screw up I will not be able to be happy never. I live in school and breath school for the reason that I wish to be happy as an adult to have the money and power I wish for now, to travel the world, to see new things. I want to be happy for once.




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Written by Fpsy 28 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi Sakura,

so do you have access to a school counselor. I think they might be able to help you. You say you are quiet, perhaps you are shy and it is difficult for people to really get to know you. You might help from developing some good social skills. You might be feeling a bit depressed because of your situation.

You say you like school which is good. So you might do really well in a social skills program where you learn to practice and use some skills in building good friendships.

Do you give people a chance to get to know you? are you honest about who your are? Are you comfortable in talking to strangers and getting to know others?. Can you easily shrug off rejection? If you answer no to these questions then you could probably do with some social skills help.

I recommend that you speak to the school counselor.

In the meantime check out the website and read about social anxiety. See if this fits with you. There are some self help tips anyway even if it doesn't seem to apply to you.

check it out and see if it helps.

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/social_anxiety_support_symptom_causes_treatment.htm

all the best

Written by Clyde 26 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

A social skills class or program may not be so bad.

You mention fake hugs, how do you know the hugs are fake? You know the slogan (ironic here, but I mean it) "fake it till you make it"?

Perhaps when people do hug you maybe you either believe it is fake and that turns them off, or you can also be a social avoidant.

It would definitely help to go speak to the school counselor to see what you can do to get help.

Best,

Clyde


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