Avatar Posted by trinity 23 days ago (Question)



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Written by Fpsy 23 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi Trinity,

you don't have to discuss something with your therapist that you don't want to. You don't have to go there again, and bring up all the negative feelings and emotions and relive this.

Why do you think, you won't be believed, it is a therapist job to believe what their clients tells them and brings to the therapy session. The fact that you don't think they will believe you is insight into either some trust issues with you, or the therapeutic relationship you have with your therapist.

Most therapist are interested in a clients history. It is knowledge that is helpful, even if you think it's irrelevant to the present problem today.

What happened to you was a very traumatic event, and telling your therapist might help to put some context into some of the issues that your now having. If you don't want to go through talking about that again that's ok, but your therapist might change some of techniques with you or suggest other kinds of skills you could develop to help you.

Why not say it exactly as you've described here. That this event happened years ago, you have gone through therapy and believe you have recovered. But you think they should know about it as part of your history. You can explain that how difficult it is to talk about.

Written by trinity 19 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Thanks your advice helped me tell my therapist. I will see where it goes now. Thanks so very much.

Written by Chemar 22 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi Trinity

if you feel that you have dealt with the trauma of the rape and been able to get over it (as much as one realistically can be expected to) then you are not under any obligation to have to tell your therapist about it

however, as Fpsy said, it may be that it does play a part in the broader scope of the reasons you are seeing a therapist now.

Sometimes we feel we have left something behind only to realize suddenly how much it actually has affected us in other areas.

if and when you do bring it up, try to be clear with the therapist that you wish to presently have boundaries on further discussion of it, and that if and when you feel ready to discuss further, you will. be clear that you do not want the focus of your therapy sessions to shift there at this time, or ever. A good therapist will respect that, and stay focused on what you *do* need to talk about and let the rest evolve as you work through the issues yourself.

Good therapy is when your counselor facilitates *your* work at resolving things for yourself, without forcing you down paths that you do not yet (or ever) want to go

hope this helps a bit


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