Avatar Posted by gigi123 91 days ago (Question)
So...my best friend who is the same age as me is getting married soon to a 23 year old. She is hispanic and most of her family is from another country so getting married young is the normal thing in her culture. In fact to her a 24 year old NOT married is strange, which I don't believe in but I still respect her beliefs. But it's still weird...she was planning on going to college with me, and she was planning on getting her AA (at least) and then that changed to one year...now she says she might just do one semester...I don't say anything becuase I'll support her in whatever she chooses but that's just stupid...she's going to get married and probably have kids, becuase she's always LOVED baby clothes and all that stuff. It's always been obvious to me that she always wanted to settle down early. I think she's too young. I mean she's going to get married and have kids at 18. And then thats it. Thats going to be her life? I would never do that...I want so much more out of life and when I have a family I want to be educated and be able to provide money and a comfortable life for them. What am I supposed to tell her? Or even how to feel about her getting married?


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Written by bellacutie 91 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I certainly understand everything you're saying but if that's what she wants then there's nothing you can do, except tell her what you told us. Is her family supporting her not getting an education. You're right if she gets married and has kids then divorces - how will she support her kids if the father doesn't. I'm surprised her own family wouldn't want her to finish her education first. Tell her your feelings and concerns then let it go. Good thing you're on the right track.:) Bella

Written by Clyde 80 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Heck, tell her congratulations. Different cultures are different things, and besides, her getting married that does not mean she will be a different person and never see you again.

She may end up doing more than one "semester" as you said, who knows--once she gets in, she may decide that she likes it more than the idea of being married, or being with him.

There are no kids, yet, either, so I wouldnt worry about that bridge till I came across it.

I agree you should tell her your feelings and then let it go, unless she wants to talk to you about it. Other than that, wish her well.

Life is all about changes, good and bad, my dear.

Best,

Clyde


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